in your 50's? what is one great lesson that life has shown you? did yuo learn it the hard way?

Answer 1

Live for today, the past is finished and tomorrow is not yet here. Be aware now, this minute, with those around you. Embrace them and love them.
Live your passion and the rest of life will take care of itself with this center.
Forgive yourself, we are hardest on ourselves. Release the weight of past mistakes which weigh you down. Learn from them, make amends where possible, then release them into the mist. Allow yourself to be happy!
More than one great lesson, but one hopefully doesn't get to and past the half century mark and only have learned one thing!
Live, love, laugh and live your passion!

Answer 2

A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 3

This question makes me chuckle a little. Especially about the part of the question referring to learning your lessons the hard way.

IS THERE ANY OTHER WAY? We humans fail to heed warnings, take need-full advice, follow the already cut path, do what momma told you to do... We just are too stubborn to follow golden and not so golden rules just for the sake of being independent and slightly or heavily defiant.

John Cougar Melloncamp best said it... I fought the law and the law won.

But to share what I learn ed with someone that I deem good wisdom? I would have to say... PEOPLE! Logic is a good thing and it will keep you safe when your personal emotions will lie to you at every turn to keep feeling. It's that dopamine in your brain that make emotions and your body wondrous things and feel so alive.

Answer 4

You don't have to be 50 to learn this simple truth:

Every human has a redeeming quality. Never be judgemental. A person's looks can be very deceiving. Freedom to think is a gift. Just because I do not understand something, it does not mean I can redicule that person's idea.

I have learned this the hard way but very early - in my pre teens - and it has helped me to improve my interpersonal communication skills so many times in my life.

Answer 5

Almost 60, and I have learned that all those things we though were so important really are, the lost loves of my youth, the bitter disappointment of my first marriage, the loss of a baby, and the loss of my parents. If you had told me I would go through all that and more in my twenties, I would have never wanted to live, I would have told you that was my life and my happiness, and it was, and it still is, but one lives on even in sadness and unhappiness, life goes on and you with it, even if you want to stop the tide and let yourself catch up.
Whats important now is just going on, being there for those who need you, being able to say 'no' now and then without guilt. Finding out how I've changed...its almost another adolescence, finding myself after years of thinking and doing first for others for all of my adult life.
There were times that I thought this self-discovery was over, but now I know its never over till you are dead. Never.
Now, see me in another ten years (I hope) and we'll see if I've learned anything else after 10 more years of watching the seasons change the mountain colors.
I've never had a big life, but I have enjoyed it.

Answer 6

Well, I'm still in my 40's... but life HAS shown me a lesson: it's good to be even on the bottom of a deep well - you can see the stars during the day!

Answer 7

I would like to think I have learned many things by this point in my life. But, the one most poignant lesson I have learned, so far, is how much I am truly capable of accomplishing, once I've set my mind to it, and just do whatever I need to do to persevere.

I've had many passions throughout the years, but my deepest has always been for horses. I spent my entire childhood dreaming of having them one day. When I managed to finally find my home in the country, I began helping to rescue through veterinarians, and learning the process of rehabilitation. It was frustrating, gruelling, often scarey ,to try and soothe a frightened 1500 lb. animal, and more physical and mental work than I had ever imagined. There were so many days I had wanted to give up, feeling, either, that I wasn't capable enough or smart enough to handle the situations involved. Yet, there was such a deep draw to the horses for me. I knew I could feel their misery, and often felt closer to many of the horses than anyone else around me. Maybe I understood thier feelings of fear, or feeling like a damaged soul that drew my compassion for them.

One day, one of the vets asked me to take in some of his pregnant mares for him. He wanted me to help foal them out at my farm ,and raise the babies as weanlings. I felt elated, terriffied, insecure, you name it. I knew I had experienced it, studied it, loved it, but I was still afraid to fail. Even though I promptly said YES! He could feel my intimidation. It was then that he looked at me and said, " Michelle, you CAN do this, and you want to know why I know this? Because you are the type of person who can walk into a room of 100 people, and instantly feel what half of them are feeling." And...he continued, Do you know what a burden that is?"

As tears welled in my eyes, everything clicked for me, at that moment. It was about allowing myself to feel and responding in trust to those feelings. The one thing I had been afraid of doing, was the one thing I was really good at. Following my instincts, and just communicating with the individual animal in front of me, instead of just feeling their burdens without making sense of it.

To shorten an already overly long story, I took those mares in, foaled their babies, and raised them into wonderful strong, respectful horses. And in the process of teaching young horses to face their fears, I have learned to do some of the same. I am forever grateful to them for these lessons, and to those who believed in me , when I couldn't muster the courage to believe in myself.

Today, I am the proud owner of five of my own, and they are not just any horses. They are Spanish Andalusians, my dream horses. So today I bask in my 50's knowing I have succeeded in my endeavors, and the rewards were greater than I imagined. Should the sun ever fall below the horizon before I have learned something new from a horse, then it was merely a day that I was not listening.

I suppose I did learn things the hard way, until I learned to let go of inhibitions and fears, and just DO, until I found my way. As I sit here drinking my morning coffee, watching my horses run through the fluffy snow, I know, It was well worth the journey! Can't wait to see what I have yet to learn!

Answer 8

I would have partied less and planned better. I would have taken better care of my finances. I had a very care-free attitude, and lived day by day with no thought for the future. Now is the future, and I could have done much better in this area.

Answer 9

Life is a hard task master.Whatever you learn you learn the hard way only even when you do not subscribe to the Buddhist view of life that it is full of 'dukka' (sorrow, unsatisfactory state) only.

Answer 10

try not to be jealous of what others have. we all pretty much live the same.eat the same. live in houses. try not to put much stock in material things big house so what boat big deal bmw who cares none of it is important. just do your best.