my friend recently had a break down she was sad cause someone she knew got murdered by his friends cause his friends where jealous of him, she cant get over this and wants to leave this cruel world.. what can is say to make things sound better then they are?? and how can i make her feel better??
2007-02-19 00:23:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, just be really nice with her and be there for her during this hard period of time. I also had such an experience with someone murdered recently, and believe me it's hard to get your thought off. Let her be sad, cry and let her get her fustration out (even if she turns it on you). Be patient with her, and when she tells you that she wants to leave this cruel world, tell her that you don't want it there there are more victims in this horrible case. I really hope you can help her get through this. Good luck
2007-02-19 00:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by Marlieke89 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can get her to see that the devastation and loss she feels over losing her friend that way would continue like an echo of emotions if she were to leave this world too. She would leave all of those bad feelings behind to be felt by maybe you, or someone else who really cares about her. It is normal to grieve the loss of a loved one or friend, but to die because that person is dead will not solve anything, only create more problems for someone else she would leave behind. If you can get her to see it that way, she might have a change of mind and choose to live. Maybe she needs some professional counseling for grief. The only worse thing than one dead friend is two dead friends.
2007-02-19 08:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was the friend who died a believer in Jesus?
If so, there is great hope.
Hope, with confidence that she will see him again.
Is your friend that is alive a Christian?
She has hope knowing that she will be in Heaven one day, in a place of no more sorrow, no more tears, no more pain, no more death, the old things pass away.
What a tough situation.
It is hard to respond without knowing their belief system.
I am helpless, without Christ.
I guess you could make her feel better by just being there for her and letting her know that she can talk to you anytime about her friend.
I am sorry for this trial you are going through.
It must be hard to see your friend so sad.
Some friends, can ya' even call them that, if they killed him?
She is alive and there is hope.
Take care.
Peace out.
2007-02-19 08:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The world isnt cruel --but there are cruel people in this world. Let her know that her friend would not want her to hurt herself, thereby causing her family and friends to hurt as well. If talking to friends or family is not enough for her, she should seek out proefessional help to help her through this.
2007-02-19 08:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
let her feel that you are also her friend and that you're there for her any time of the day... try to tell her not to even think about ending up her life coz maybe, you as friend might be so depressed like her and might end up dead too. let her feel that you worried a lot for her and try to help you not no worry that much by getting better herself.
2007-02-19 08:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by machooletz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her.
suicide is never the best way to escape this world, our troubles and hurts.
be there for her, but tell her, that there is someone out there who hears her cry, her pain, her hurts, her emotional struggles. this someone will be there for her forever, at any time of the day.
He is God.
He died for her, and cries with her, and He will comfort her, if she is willing to let Him... (not that He won't if she isn't willing... )
anyways.. i guess, just be with her, even if sacrifices on our side have to be made...
sometimes being just there for the person speaks alot more, and comforts more than us saying comforting things.
yup.
:)
2007-02-19 08:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by nicrome 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel i like you should tell your friend that she is some body and if someone don't see that in her so what god made men just like he made a woman there is some body for her,she has to much to live for.if he can't see her for her someone will.tell her to hold on and god might not come when she wont him to but he will be there right on time!!!!!
2007-02-19 08:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by adrian r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know you are there for her to talk and she doesnt need to hurt herself to feel better. Get her out and yall have a lil bit of fun to get her mind off of it. Tell her to join a mourning group......it all helps!!
2007-02-19 08:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by CrazyGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make her feel like the world didn't end and tell her there are people suffering just like she is. Misery loves company!
2007-02-19 08:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
take them for counselling with any grief counselor in your neighbourhood and be there for her
2007-02-19 08:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by LadyK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋