Will a marriage like this ever work??

Question

Hi,
I like a guy very much, I liked him before knowing that he's rich. My family is not that rich, u can say medium, we have a good taste in things and we dress well and talk well to people. People may think that we are rich and wealthy. So what if this guy fell in love with me and we decided to get married, will this marriage work or not??
I mean we are from 3 different levels in money terms, but in minds, we have the same way of thinking and acting?? Will this marriage ever create any problems?

Answer 1

marriage is not abt money matters.. its abt how strong ur feelings r towards each other..

coz if u do trust, love & believe each other, u can do anything!!

Answer 2

Money always creates problems, and the more of it there is the bigger the problems are. Just look at this Anna Nichole Smith fiasco: she's dead and the problems are getting even worse, and the whole thing is ultimately over the money. Everybody wants the money, and if this happens even when you are dead imagine how bad it will be when you are still alive.

If it is not you who is fighting directly it will be the near and distant relatives who will all decide the money belongs to them and the fighting will break out into war and hatreds that will go on until you are dead and beyond.

Better to marry a toad.

Answer 3

It sounds like it will work if all you do is take pictures in your nice clothes and have cordial conversation with others of the same sensibilities as yours. If how you both act similarly and dress in harmony with each other so a united front is presented socially you should be destined for a wonderful marriage. If you wish to be mannikins or docents.

You might want to consider how you feel about the people in those clothes and homes and how they feel. How would you feel if you were told that he wanted to marry you because you present well to the right people?

Phew.

Answer 4

Did you meet him because he was rich, or did you find out later?
Most rich guys think they are like first for their money, then for love. It will work if you love him for him and not the money. Money is not the best thing in the world since sliced bread...but like sliced bread, it sure does make it easier.
Let him know you are not after him for the money up front, and you can make it work. Just remember it is his money, not yours. If he loves you he will want you to have all you want, but do not let the relationship be about money. I am sure he would not make you ware rags you know what I mean. Find out how he feels about spending his money....also find out if it is really his money...just because his parents are rich does not mean he is.
I know my girls thinks my money is their money, but it is not.
Also remember parents will play a big role in this. They are out to protest their son, and their money.
So love him and work at the marrage. I have been married for 32 years to the same man. I was richer then him when we got married...I had 5 dollors and he had 1 dollor, but money is not why we got married. Any marriage takes work to make it happen.
Do not be lazy and expect him to take care of you. Get an education so if things so wrong, you can make it on your own.
Do not expect him to take care of you all your life. Marriage is not as stable nowdays as they were when I was young...we worked at making each other happy, now the frist sign of conflict and it is over. People just do not work through problems much anymore.
I daughter was married 8 months...and walked out because of money problems. He had not worked much in his life and she was use to getting what she wanted.

Answer 5

Wealth and poverty or middle class has NOTHING to do with love. If you love one another that is all that matters. If he has a wealthy background however and you don't, you will need to learn how to uphold yourself in social settings because believe it or not, people with a lot of money, do judge. (I know this from experience).

At the end of the day marriage is about love, commitment and devotion. Money doesn't make a difference.

Answer 6

Dear, there is not a marriage out there that has not had problems from one thing or another. The "social barrier" is a tough one, but if it is not too far off then there is no reason it should not work out. You may have some probelmes with the inlaws until you have their precious grandchildren and then all will be well. Good luck.

Answer 7

Yes. There are problems between families when you come from different wage brackets. But if your family doesn't live as close as his, who cares?? It just makes for embarrassment in a snobbish way at family gatherings but it also makes a difference in what you each expect too!! Just remember he expects to have things done for him more than you do!! Good Luck!! Go For It!! He loves you, right? Then that's ALL that matters!! Don't spend too much before you find out what he is used to!! @8-)

Answer 8

I don't think money should have anything to do with it. Do you have shared values, do you love each other, are you willing to do the work that it takes for a successful marriage?

If he asks you to sign a prenup, I don't know. I've always thought it was a bad idea to start out a marriage by planning your divorce.

Answer 9

Why does money have to be a factor of COURSE it can work? Unless you have lied to him about how much money you have, in which case the marriage will be based on dishonesty, but in terms of money or income, that shouldnt play a role, marriages are based on love, communication, honestly, trust, etc, if youhave those you';ll be fine

Answer 10

Yes there will be issues involved, a prenuptual comes to mind first but even outside that, there is always room for people to look down on you because you marrried into wealth. if you truely love the man you can deal with the issues and be happy with the man you want to marry.

Answer 11

Sure it'll work. But you have to be honest and put some effort into the relationship. You can make it work, it'll just be a little hard. If you're really in love, you could probably do it.