made you sooo mad that you want to kick him repeatedly? Mine does this on a regular basis and I think he either enjoys it or doesn't care. I feel like I am raising another child. I have tried to leave him many times, but he just won't go. With 4 kids I don't want to be the one to move. I am frustrated and don't know what to do. I am sick of asking him for consideration. I am sick of asking for his help. I am sick of getting so mad at him. He knows what buttons to push though. I actually wanted to kick him this morning. I like to think that I have myself under control. I never lose it with any of my kids, and they like to try my patience. I don't think I should have to work so hard with a spouse. (Technically, he is just a boyfriend, we have been together for 7.5 years though.) I am sick of the head games. I would like this to be straight and simple. I would like him to do his jobs so that I can do mine. How the hell do I make that happen?? Yes, I am already thinking about leaving....
2007-02-18 23:28:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I get angry, that is my part in it. All I expect of him is to get out of bed and take care of HIS ****. I don't expect him to do anything else anymore because it just doesn't happen. As far as him moving out, I pay all the goddamn bills. The kids, I TAKE CARE OF THEM. Not him. I am the one with them 7 days a week from the time they get up until they go to sleep. I don't say that NONE of it is my fault, and I know what my part is in all of it.
2007-02-18 23:48:31 · update #1
Okay! Let's see the facts. Head Games? ,....Love? Arguments? Anger?,.... Disrespect?,...... Not (legally) Married? Ma'am, you've got all the symptoms, of someone who wants to be tortured. Either you lay those facts out. Ans see that there isn't anything, resembling Love? Or you continue to be dis'd, at every level. Love is much too special, to be covered in Anger and disrespect.
2007-02-18 23:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by Goggles 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i have been with my man for 7 yrs we have 3 kids and yes sometimes i feel like kicking his ***, butt relationships always have there ups and downs, sometimes i think i,m raising 4 not 3. my question is does he still make u laugh, do u still have a good time together? if not than make the break but if so u'll work through it that's what it's all about. yr allowed to get cranky but so long as he's not abusive or controlling and he still says he loves u than don't stress, good luck.
2007-02-19 07:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by mandiej81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you do not think you have any responsibility here.
You are sick of everything he does so why wouldn't he push your buttons?
Grow Up.
If you are going to leave DO IT. You are the one who wants to go so move already.
It takes some serious nerve to decide you want to split but he is the one who has to move.
Try to do a rethink here., The jobs you want him to do are they agreed upon or did you just decide he needs to do them?
I know that women often try to treat their partner like they are one of the kids and NOTHING will make a guy throw out the anchor quicker.
Maybe you need to give a little because you sound a bit intractable.
OR you can leave, but don't expect him to.
Do you think he would let you take his kids? I know I would not.
2007-02-19 07:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The fact that he hasn't married you after 7.5 years tells me he doesn't think much of a committment to you in the first place.
Ask him what his REAL intentions are. Is he getting antsy...does he want you to be the bad guy for "pushing" him out of the house? I don't know his motives, so I can't say for certain. Ask him what his long term goals are concerning you and your famiy in particular.
I can say without a doubt that he must know what he is doing on some level, or he wouldn't continue to do it. Since it's not working for you, he must feel he has some advantage. Think about what that advantage is, and ask him DIRECTLY about it.
Good luck. You deserve the best in life.
2007-02-19 07:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's called "being in a relationship" SIMPLE AS THAT. Do you think we all haven't worn your shoes at one time or another? We have!!! If you truly want out, ...you would get out. Think twice about it tho. Every relationship has it's ups and downs. You should know that. Hell, you've been with him for over 7 yrs, and he's HAD to have acted that way early on in the relationship. Good Luck to you..
2007-02-19 08:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Boot him out and you stay right where you're at. Tell him if he wants to play games then go find some kids and play a game with them. He pushed your wrong button for the last time.
2007-02-19 07:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Uhm, it sounds like you don't appreciate or love your husband at all. You think he's acting like a child or that you feel the need to control him?? That's just sick. Do the guy a favour and leave him. No one should put up with a spouse that just wants to change them.
2007-02-19 07:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
find a place to go with your kids, leave, and make sure he knows that he is alone because he is a fool that needs to grow up and stop being so self centered.
he may decide to grow up in a week or two, but he will probably sink into his old habits if you take him back easily, in other words, make him beg before/if you take him back..
2007-02-19 07:37:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Actions speak louder than words.
2007-02-19 07:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by El Pajaro Loco 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him and talk to him...if his acting like that that's not what a mans for ...then do what you gotta go...
2007-02-19 07:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by jaysonmgs 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋