2007-02-18 23:13:31 · 17 answers · asked by tisya 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my case I've decided to forgive because of my kids.
But things are not the same as before, something somewhere has changed, I don't have too much expectation from him any more. He is the man who made me realize that I am not the special one for whom anyone would like to do anything special.
I would suggest if kids are not involved then let him go, it will take you little time(?) to forget him, but ask yourself if you would do something like that would he be able to forgive you...then WHY women need to be so great?
2007-02-18 23:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by VC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one. Most people say kick them to the curb. My wife has cheated on me a number of times. At first I would forgive her as she had some type of exuse that made me feel like it was me. That I was the reason for her cheating. Then it just kept happening, with no regard to my feelings. Finally the last time she said, "hey that's the way it is, either put up with it or we can break up." we are not together any longer.
It was the hardest thing I have ever done and continues to be today. I suggest go find someone else that you can hang with. Don't jump into a relationship, just find someone to have a drink with it will make you feel better.
Betst of luck
2007-02-19 00:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by ted j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't put up with cheaters. I don't want them bringing home any diseases to me. I figure if they stoop to that level without even being upfront and honest they aren't worth keeping around in my life. I've divorced 3 women in my life who cheated while i was deployed during my military career. I won't marry again because i honestly don't believe there exists a woman on the face of the earth that can be totally faithful in a marriage or relationship.
As far as forgiveness goes. I didn't forgive them i just got rid of them just like i do the trash from the house. Cheaters don't deserve forgiveness. They are selfish, self-centered type people.
2007-02-18 23:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would forgive him for i would love him - otherwise he wouldn't be my husband; i just don't know how much time it would take... i would never forget it though and there is no way i could keep on living with him and getting back together would be a VERY long shot. If there was no place to go i'd rather go live on streets than see him every day in this home we used to have together.
2007-02-18 23:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Did i just say something silly? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd boot a cheating spouse out with the understanding that it's over. If they're miserable the rest of their life, too bad. They shouldn't of cheated in the first place. I'd forgive them but that trust would be gone thanks to them destroying it.
2007-02-18 23:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is confusing --- Me be miserable, or he be miserable?
Life is too short for me to be miserable. Betrayal is really the only deal-buster in a marriage.... If you wish to know more,read some of my stuff on marriage. I did indeed leave, and it was he who was miserable as it should have been, since he did the betrayal.... I, hon, found the prince.
2007-02-18 23:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if your spouse admitted to doing it, or if you discovered by other means. If he's truly remorseful, then its up to you. People don't just cheat, there are underlying reasons as to why. If you are able to see that, then you might be able to forgive. If your core values say no, then let him/her go
2007-02-19 01:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill only be concerned if its me who is going to be miserable. As for my spouse maybe the reason why he/she would be unfaithful is because they are unhappy with me and so trying to get a break, if not, still its a pain they have caused themselves. I would gladly let them go and believe life has something better for me
2007-02-18 23:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by LadyK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At one time, i might have accomplished that concept with, "yet we've a infant who needs us to get via this." Now, we've worked annoying to enhance our communique, and (so a great way, a minimum of) do no longer finally end up in that undesirable place anymore. wish it relatively is a hypothetical challenge for you, and if no longer... wish it gets extra desirable quickly, and which you're ok.
2016-10-02 09:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. You can try to forgive, but you wil never forget. No cheater deserves a second chance. That's one mistake that can only happen once before it is over.
2007-02-18 23:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋