Have been married for almost a year. Have a 4 month adorable baby. Given up a strong career to look after my baby.My husband was married before and he has a 6yr old boy. Since the baby I am finding it very difficult/intolerable to have a relationship with his boy. He stays with us 5 days in every two weeks.
2007-02-18 23:02:05 · 5 answers · asked by peloha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Each marriage brings new challenges. And I know pregnancy can change a woman to the point where she feels like she's holding the world on her shoulders. But when you committed to your husband you also committed to his son.Whether it was discussed or not it's a package deal because it's a part of him. Try to keep in mind at 6 this child is probally confused. Make the transition a patient one. Make every effort. And whatever you do don't say bad comments about the kid to anyone. That can really be hurtful. Sit down with your husband and don't accuse just ask kindly what he feels you could be doing more of...what your goals for the chilld are. Then tell him how he can help you get there. You can only control your house...not the other woman's. So hang in there...your trying and that's a BIG start.
2007-02-18 23:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 9 yr old step daughter, i have been with my partner for 7 yrs and he has custody of my daughter. i don't understand what yr saying, has he been playing up. he may feel a little put out by a new baby, i have 2 other children with my partner and when our first boy came along our daughter didn't take it to well, but kids just need to feel important. ask him to help with the baby, don't shut him out he probably feels like he's not getting enough attention, make some time just for him when the baby is sleeping or something. don't blame him for his behaviour as he doesn't understand that u have less time for him, it's confusing for kids. if u didn't want to have a relationship with him u shouldn't have married his father as they come as a package. just love him and treat him as u would your own because if u treat him different your partner will notice and u might loose him.
2007-02-19 07:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by mandiej81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being selfish and unfair to this child. He is there 5 out of fourteen days, not a whole lot of time to spend with his dad and sibling. He is very young and probably hurt that the women figure in his and his dad's life/house doesn't like him. Congratulations on becoming the evil step mother.
2007-02-19 09:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, reason number 1 not to get involved with a parent! What do you do? Ask your husband. You're not the kids mom.
2007-02-19 07:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your husband about the boy!
2007-02-19 07:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋