Not necessarily a secret but something they felt it not necessary to share with you. Please don't reply if you "tell each other everything". Those answers are boring. My partner has a stash of X-rated dvds I came across some time ago. I've never mentioned finding them.
2007-02-18 22:24:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, if it is something he doesn't want to share with me, I don't see the benefit of me sharing it with others... do you?
2007-02-18 22:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by Astro Gurl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that 2 years after we were married my wife had an affair with a salesman where she worked as a secretary to the sales director. It started at Christmas and went on for about 2 months. She never wanted any closeness or sex with me at that time and was always quiet and withdrawn until Monday mornings when the salesmen all came in for a meeting. We lived close to where she worked and I was 2 hours away at work. They used our house at lunch times. I found a cuff link in our spare bedroom and it had his initials on it. I knew him from the Christmas company dance. After about 7 weeks I was home sick and I saw him out with another one of the secretaries all very close. I mentioned this to my wife and I gather it stopped right then. I still have never mentioned to her about it and she has only strayed on one other occasion. Didn't mention that either.
2007-02-19 06:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by ANF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came across comments left on this gals profile that I didn't know he was signed up too. He was flirting with her. I wasn't jealous, just hurt. Especially to see comments of him calling some other gal hot and stuff. I never thought I'd be bothered, but I was. I was embarressed to be hurt by it, and confused at first. Maybe because I trust him to be loyal to me mentally and physically 150%.
I didn't tell him for a few days, I just felt weird til I did tell him. If there's something I find out, I always feel that I need to tell him.
-.-'
2007-02-19 06:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know my husband has a son that he will never talk about, he didnt tell me I found out through snooping, this child will be 10 years old now he has never had contact, I spoke to the mother and she says he denys been the father, and that is how he left it, I hate him for been this way, he would be a better man if he was in contact with his son, he still has his other 2 children every weekend from his first marriage.
he knows I know now as I had it out with him, he was only 18 at the time so i dont blame him for it but he is not willing to discuss it he says he is not his son.
2007-02-19 06:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he says he is on a diet and has a stash of chocolate bars hidden away 2 giant bars and three small ones, I share everything with him - what a cheat.
2007-02-19 09:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by ann b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did find out something recently and I discussed it with him - of course leading kim into it so he could answer truthfully - of course he deined there wasn't anything to tell him then I told him what I found out - he asked how I found out. I jsut played if off to intution and I have my ways. It was a secret I felt he should not have kept from me so talking about it is best
2007-02-19 08:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation before. Its so frustrating not being able to say something coz he will just say that you should not have been looking throug his stuff. I kept something to myslef for ages (carnt say what) and it really got to me. Just think of a way to bring it up, i tried talking about the subject and made it very clear how much i hated it it will soon make him realise what he is doing. Just try and talk to him.
2007-02-19 06:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by glam123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing about those secrets, is the really big arguments it seems to be a "good weapon" at that moment and then the whole mistery is dead ! But it is fun while its a secret of nowing a secret kinda thing....lol
2007-02-19 06:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by sonia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I keep loads of secrets from my husband, usually about the kids, if they get a bad report from school, the fact that I have a bank account with more money than he thinks and also my last handbag, it cost me 120pounds I told him it was only 20pounds, nothing major, but I like to keep getting one up on him, I'm sure he doesn't tell me everything.
2007-02-19 06:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see, many if not most men look at that type of stuff from time to time, if you have never looked at it or don't want to then what you do about it is up to you always could put it on sometime and get him to watch one with you and see weather it helps him open up about what he would like to do more. just an idea.
2007-02-19 06:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by Some guy on the street 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I personally don't but I think it would be funny if you "accidentally" left out your vibrator somewhere your man could easily see it just to see what he would say. If he tries to say something about it then just simply reply oopps sorry I must have forgot to put it up after watching your movies I found...LOL that would be so hilarious to me...pls do it.
2007-02-19 06:36:37 · answer #11 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋