E.g. the career, the children, the house, a full life - or do we have to compromise on one of these things??? Just interested in people's experiences and what you think is truly possible...
2007-02-18 22:14:16 · 10 answers · asked by PrettyKitty 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Man or woman; can anyone have it all? I think not. Life is about compromise. Pick what's most important to you and give your all. You can't be all things to your family & career. One has to take second place. I do think though that you can have a full life with either choice. It depends on what fulfills you the most.
2007-02-18 22:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a lifetime long ago...I tried this myself. Things were probably easier as my husband and I worked together, running our business from home so no long hours of tiring travelling to get to the office. I needed lots of help though and to have "all my ducks in a row" - meaning being really well organised. Sometimes things went well for months. Good childcare/reliable cleaner and ironer/day off each week to shop for food (this was before internet deliveries!)/quality time at the weekend.
Other times I was in a sort of despair when my well-constructed life crumbled - like my day nanny got pregnant (how bloody thoughtless). Cleaners often just didn't turn up so had to find a new one. Car broke down on the way to the supermarket.
Eventually, through no fault of our own, we had to wind up the business and I decided to take some time out. This stretched to five years from when my sons were six and eight, until the youngest went to secondary school. It was such a lovely time for us all.
For me having time to be with my kids and time for myself and my husband were much more precious but then I am a bit of a lazy so and so deep down and I really enjoyed not having the career part to cope with. Luckily we still had enough cash coming in the have a nice life.
I think all things are possible but it's a real balancing act and as a woman/mum you have to try not to be "the best" at everything. Allow yourself to be "good enough" at some things, and hopeless at others - and get yourself help with these!
2007-02-19 06:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by Who Yah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do have it all my career, my children, husband and a home. It just takes a lot of work
2007-02-19 06:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a bit of a struggle.... My wife gets by --Just ! by the time Friday comes she is Knackered. and I am a bit dazed.... my advice is ...never work a weekend ... if you want the Full Monty... Quality time is a must...
2007-02-19 06:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought I had it all, but would not compromise on sharing my Husband now that thats ended, I have my kids and peace of mind...so now I do have it all :o)
2007-02-19 06:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is very hard and why we see so many divorces these days but there are exceptions to everything you just have to work very hard and never give up
2007-02-19 06:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by shawn w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the words of a Country ballad, that I'm very fond of:- "WHO SAYS YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL?"
2007-02-19 06:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by Spike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes usually after the divorce they get the children, the house , the husbands pension, his car his boat his self respect his will to live, his future....
2007-02-19 06:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by Monkeyphil 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
no, women by nature are selfish and will always want more.
thy will always want better than they have rather than being sattisfied.
2007-02-19 06:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
they do!
2007-02-19 06:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋