Is my fiancee insecure about his looks ?
am gettin married this week, and ours is an arranged marriage, i had only seen him in chat and in photos and he looked ok.
but recently i met him in person and i have to say i was disappointed. and then he started talkin to me, and it all seemed fine, and my disappointment sort of faded.
not to be boastful, but i do look very pretty.
since he met me, he has been askin me how come i agreed to marry him since he is not a match for me.. he asks jokingly, but i kinda feel hurt when he does so, since i really do like him.. regardless of his looks.. and i dono wat to say when he asks that question.. and am worried that my not respondin might give him the wrong impression that may be i don really like him..
i ve told him many times that i like him as he is.. is he being insecure or jus funny ? although i don think its funny...
and how can i assure him that i love him no matter how he looks ?
wat do i tel him if he brings up tis issu again?
2007-02-18 20:57:49 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
after we met he told me that i am really beautiful.. before i could say thanks he asked me whether my parents are forcin me to marry him.. I denied vehemently, but he jus sorta laughed it off.. i dint know wat to say after that.. :(
2007-02-18 21:00:07 · update #1
You should tell him the old proverb that beauty is only skin deep, and remind him that you're marrying him for the man that he is.
2007-02-18 21:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
beauty is skin deep. superficial beauty does not last and women seem to suffer the most for it..but what does last is the quality of the persons soul. what kind of person are you hooking up with?
what are his home life like? have you met his friends and other relatives? if this is an arranged marriage then you will probably go ahead with this union. the lack of self confidence will go away with your future husband as long as you show him the courtesy and respect that he shows you. with a little time the real love will happen but remember that most romantic love does not last long.
you have a sound mind. let us hope your future husband also has a sound mind. no man is mature enough for marriage. this is a fact as most women will tell you that if they are honest. you will be the caretaker to your husband and you must home that he is not a momma boy who depends on everything his momma tells him. good luck. no amount of preparation will prepare you for the marriage. but use your common sense. Good Luck and be Patient and just tell him he is wonderful and you will always be there for him as long as he is always there to love and protect you.
2007-02-19 05:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MUST be perfectly open about this with him
if not---it will plague you for your entire relationship
You must tell him (at the appropriate time) exactly as you
have explained here---that at first it WAS a case of applied
pressure to marry him--- but then you had the opportunity
to really get to know him and that now it is a different thing
and, you are GLAD that the two of you are together !!
You will have this off your thoughts and he should be considerably happy that you have been very open with him---- otherwise you are begining a life together with undiscused subjects that could haunt you for the years ahead !!!!
2007-02-19 05:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be thinking that you want something else from marrying him. Since it is an arrange wedding! Are you sure he loves you? or are you sure you loves him. Sometimes its better to be alone if you know that your gonna be happy rather than with somebody that will not make you happy. Why not give it a time to know each other better, your future,happiness depends on your decision. So better make a wise one!
2007-02-19 06:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Catrina E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋