i dont know who i am i mean im that quiet girl at the back of the class but now i did something i would not usually do actually would not ever d0 why am i suddenly trying to be someone get attention oh and that thing i did was i swapped jearseys with my guy friend and jearseys have our nickname on the back and ive now got the nickname chato im just so confused with me is it puberty (im 11-12) hormones tell me plz
2007-02-18 20:37:25 · 10 answers · asked by Debs 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Royalty
You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your f-----g khakis. We are the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world
2007-02-21 08:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by Dethruhate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sweetie
I think you are just developing your own personality, trying out a few senerios, testing how you react in given situations. The thing is when your at school and your growing up, there is this pigeon hole mentality where your meant to conform to an ideal that is created either by the people your in school, or your peers in general, endosed by media and even you feel its pressure.
So you spend all this time trying to conform to some ideal, when you did not even get a chance to choose what the ideal idenitiy, as you put it is it was choosen for you. So why conform to it, don't put this added perssure on yourself.
It will go on for a few years and some days you feel okay and cool with yourself then other days you wonder how you got it so wrong.
I am going through it again myself as i have returned to school as an mature student after working full time. Being in school situation where everyone is so scared to make a mistake or ask a question, admit to weakness, does suck.
I want you to know that those that are around you now are not a true representation of the world. and you will find your feet and know yourself, and be accepted for you, however you choose to act one day to the next.
When you do finally find out that you are cool with yourself you will find yourself challenged by it to stay true to you. Trust your instincts, don't follow the crowd, be around the people that you have fun with and can be relaxed around. Even if it means the whole class alienate you, they will in the end respect your free sprirt. Stand for some thing or you will fall for anything.
Good luck and be Brave!!
2007-02-18 21:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sora 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard, but you are a very normal teenager trying to grow up. Teen girls can be very mean. Everyone is just trying to fit in. Everyone says "to be yourself" but you are probably still trying to figure this out. It will get easier. Don't do anything with anyone you may be sorry about later. Rumors get started over nothing so just be careful. Nothing that anyone says will make this easier for you. Just know that everyone has gone through this and you will end up just fine. Take care and grow up safe!
2007-02-19 00:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal..
At your age you'll try to get attention as much as you can.. Your subconscios is saying: I'm not a gril anymore, I'm a lady now.. Look at me and see.. I'm young I'm pretty, and others care for me.
Although you think so, you are quite sad for leaving the girlie life.. This is Normal...
You are Growing up My lady, take it easy, have fun, we only live for once...
2007-02-18 20:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lawrence of Arabia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 09:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry love, your at the age where you will be confused for the next 13 years about who you are! Just go with the flow and try to stick-in at school and stay away from trouble. Trust me, you will be fine.
Good luck lass.
2007-02-18 20:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you swapped sweaters and now you don't know who you are? Right, What the fcuk are you on about? If this is your main worry then I think you will be ok. And why is this in the royalty section lol?
2007-02-19 23:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry yourself you are just a normal girl growing up and you will be fine.
2007-02-18 20:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by Your Nuts! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're learning how to enjoy yourself, let go lol. you don't have to be the quite weird kid just because the silly popular girls think you are. be whoever you like and have a good time doing it. XXX
2007-02-18 20:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by Pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋