PART 2....
like i was saying, i left my contry to be w him...we ve been living together for 1 year and he says he dosent want to get married. i love him, i wanted to have a future and raise children with him. my visa expires in 4 months, i cant stay any longer than the expiration date, he knows the only way i could stay would be by getting married, but still, he says he is not ready to do so. i feel very hurt, left a good job back home to be w him and now this!
he says he loves me, but he is not ready for marriage. should a go back home? should i ask for a visa extension and give hhim more time? i dont know what to do!!!!!!!
2007-02-18 20:04:28 · 10 answers · asked by dear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's nothing to do. Go back to your country and start a new life. You can't force someone to marry you. Even if you did, he'd resent you and the marriage would be horrible. Chalk it up to an extended vacation, end the relationship and find a man that wants the same things out of life that you want. This could be a blessing in disguise.
2007-02-18 20:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is an as*shole. Forget about him, and start acting now. Do the visa extension right now. And start to look for a good husband right away. Go to a community college and ask there what is the process for student visa application. Apply for student visa. Go to the citizenship website and try to find how to get employment visa (hopefully you can get the work visa instead of student visa). This will win you some time. First try to find an go after ALL the options to stay in this country, before going back. Good Luck.
2007-02-18 20:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already given you your answer. He knows your Visa will expire soon and he still doesn't want to get married. What does that say to you? He allowed you to give up everything to come to be with him and now he's saying that he doesn't care whether you stay or go.
DUMP HIM. He isn't worth all this trouble. Go home and find someone who actually loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. This guy is nothing but a jerk, a user, and a loser.
2007-02-18 20:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong so much as it's not normal. Some may argue that a lot of people date older people, a 33 year difference may show up on occasion. However, if you look at the age difference from the population in general this is not the norm. That doesn't mean it's bad or anything. If you are the younger party, be aware if your older boyfriend isn't taking advantage if your lack of life experience relative to him. If you guys click, good for you. Just know if it comes time to settle down or something, he would likely pass away sooner than you a) because he has already lived 33 years more than you b) even then women statistically live longer than men People at work can chit chat or whatever, as long as this relationship is legal and not affecting the quality of your work, and you're emotionally able to handle it I don't see a problem. Make sure you're not getting taken advantage of.
2016-05-24 06:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE's probably thinking you want the marriage for the wrong reasons, not the right ones.
H'es also feeling major pushed' here. and stressed out.
definitely stop pushing him. completely.
dont even bring it up ever again, and you'll have the proper answer in those 4 months, the right answer, the one that counts.
2007-02-18 20:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him fast and find a guy who will marry you if you wnat to stay here. Im sure he want to marry, maybe he just doensnt want to marry you. If he loved you , he wouldnt want to lose you. Wake up girl, and move on, you have 4 months.
2007-02-19 03:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to answer, but the first two people answered it as well as I could have! Good luck!
2007-02-18 20:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did u in the first instance follow him w/o a commitment from his side for marriage. Please find some other person.
2007-02-18 21:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes go back home let him come to you when is ready
2007-02-18 20:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Gunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find someone else ,or go back
2007-02-18 20:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by sk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋