2007-02-18 19:31:43 · 15 answers · asked by maulik s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him! If he really loved you - he wouldn't have started another realtionship with another woman!!! Divorce is expensive and he doesn't want to pay you alimony, so he started a relationship with someone new. Divorce him and take all he's got. Don't try to "work on the relationship" - even if you have kids. Once a cheater - ALWAYS a cheater. And the older your kids get - the more they will understand what is going on and be scarred from this that will lead to long-term emotional problems, and problems in their own relationships when they get older. If they are boys: They will grow up thinking there is nothing wrong with cheating on your wife - because after all, "mom stayed with dad - it must not be THAT bad". If you have girls: They will stay with a cheating spouse because of the example you set. Women: If you are cheated on - this is 2007 - this is not acceptable! You need to put your foot down. Thats the only way men will learn this is not acceptable. Especially when it costs them money. You also need to set an example to your children. Dad broke a sacred promise that is unforgivable." Why would you want to stay with a man who thinks his new girlfriend is worth losing everything for? If a man has has an affair - basically in the back of his mind he feels having sex with this woman is worth losing his family for. You want to stay with a man like that - who thinks his lover is more important than you, and his kids?
2007-02-18 19:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by f w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some one once told me "an extra marital affair keeps a marriage going" - this is relative - people do things as per their life styles and choices. Tell that someone this - "Just ask yourself if you are going to like it, if your spouse did the same thing as you? But if you are sure your love lies with the other person and that's what you want in life - Jus make your relationships plain and simple. Don't dangle inbetween. You would be causing pain to all the people around you and yourself or would die of guilt one day - Make life easy buddy - its in your hands :)"
2007-02-19 19:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by anjalee79059 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly none of the answers will encompass all of the idiosyncrasies of someone in this situation. No outside observer could hope to understand or conceive the ramifications of any action taken upon the partners in the affair, the level of emotion of the affair, the pre-existing relationships prior to the affair, the physicality, the families of the alleged participants, the moral and religious guidelines by which they might live.... the answers in this forum sometimes frighten me with their one dimensional analysis and authoritative tone.
Only two people involved can start to sort through all of these implications...
2007-02-18 19:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Phaedrus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your spouse? If so, you owe it to them to be honest. If it is worth working for it will survive. If you have feelings for the one you had the affair with, you still owe it to your spouse to be honest and not treat them like a fool. You should decide where your feelings lie and why the affair occurred in the first place.
2007-02-18 19:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person.
Are you asking what the person should morally do? End one of the relationships and disclose whats been going on.
If you're asking what should do to have an extramarital affair, just find someone outside of your marriage to have relations with.
2007-02-18 19:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bury it in the deepest part of your brain, burn any and all evidence of the event, and never, ever, ever think it will be a good idea if you come clean. Forget it happenned, move on, live with any guilt you may have, that's your punishment. Telling them, at any time, will end your marriage.....even on your 50th wedding anniversary
2007-02-18 19:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by ZEROCOOL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Jeni stop the cheating right now and confess to your wife what you have done if your really lucky she might forgive you and give you another chance to regain her trust but by all means be honest with her
2007-02-18 19:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by mike mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize there was a reason to have it.
make sure you spend time understranding that reason to ensure it was a good reason, that you are not repeating patterns, or making the same mistakes.
You owe it to yourself, and all thouse you come into contact with. It's not just aqbout you.
2007-02-18 19:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
H e should stop it because the damge that he is doing to his marriage is catastrophic and he might be making the biggest mistake of his life.
2007-02-18 19:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by ericktravel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Develop some tough skin. It's your cross to bear now.
2007-02-18 19:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋