This girl, she is in a relationship i know she does not enjoy..there are things that make her happy..but its the fact the person she is seeing a very huge verbal abuser..doesnt pay attention to her..doesnt give her the attention she needs..this guy is a complete A**. he only is into her for the sex, she needs love. she needs a better man..and i want to be that better man..iam that better man.. What could I do to get her to see the better things at life and that "I" would be the better thing she needs..Without begging her to leave? How could i show her in actions not words that what your missing is right in front of you...ME!
2007-02-18 19:28:56 · 15 answers · asked by veryconfused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she has to make the decision to leave the realtionship. She has to come to the conclusion that he is not right for her....Just be supportive of her and be a friend.Sounds like she needs one.
2007-02-18 19:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Like others have said, you should be supportive of her and let her make the decision on her own. If she asks your opinion, of course you should tell her how you feel about him. However, I would hold off on expressing your feelings for her. She needs time to heal and get over him. In order for your relationship with her to be valid and true, she has to be free of him. Otherwise, you may just be a way out. You don't need to "rescue" her per se. You can be a good friend, and if you can be patient, she may realize she has feelings for you. When you feel she is ready, then reveal your feelings and intentions to her. Good luck. I hope she realizes what she has in you!
2007-02-19 04:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is be supportive... I've been in abusive relationships (sounds dumb, i know) and i know from expirence that it's hard to leave. You can tell her she deserves better but you can't force her to leave- she has to do that herself. Keep showing that you care, it'll pay off. It can be hard on you but in the end when she realizes how badly she's been treated by this other guy it's going to make her realize how much you really cared.
It's hard to fing people who really care anymore. She's lucky to have a friend like you.
2007-02-19 04:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people sometimes stay in a certain type of relationship because that is what they r familiar with. i wonder if her father treated her mother like this? she will always be drawn to people who resemble her life. until she finds the strength to break this toxic cycle she will keep having relationships with the wrong men.
I bet she already knows you are the right person for her but maybe she feels that would be too good and she thinks she is not meant to be happy. You need to always be there for her and in time, if she is still young she will gather strength to be with the right person. Just be patient, supportive and most of all.....her friend!
2007-02-19 03:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by simone c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is very interesting....
First u have to make friends with her then ask her how things are going u just have to make small little steps to get to her...
some girls are really deep...
wut if she really like him and doesnt want to let go...
u just have to wait for her until her feelings desolve from the other guy..
2007-02-19 03:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by Pink*advice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. She's not going to see it until she is ready. Right now just be a shoulder to cry on and let her know that you care about her and that if she were to leave him you would be there for her. That's all you can do, the decision is hers.
2007-02-19 03:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by So_many_questions 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actions? Send favorite flowers, send a limo, just try and b honest with her. At least u could be friends, and be there for her. She is probably in alot of pain, if this dude doesn't care for her.
2007-02-19 04:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a doormat who is allowing her jerk of a boyfriend to abuse her, and you are just pathetic. Why don't you find yourself someone with a bit of self-esteem and forget all about being the good samaritan. If this girl wanted to be rescued, don't you think she'd rescue herself?
2007-02-19 04:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to help her you have to wait until the right time comes.
2007-02-19 04:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by pinky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she needs a better man, she'll find one.
2007-02-19 03:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by Crysta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋