My Boyfriend is using gaydar, is he picking up men from there?

Question

My boy friend is using gaydar and he says that he is only talking to the guys and nothing else.He is constantly getting text messages and not telling me who it is. He has changed the pin code for his phone and his laptop so i cant see who it is. He cjecks my phone but wont let me touch his. Do people go on to gaydar too look for sex or do some people really only chat? I dont know, I thought that gaydar was only just for meeting for sex am I stupid for thinking that?

Answer 1

I signed up and had a profile on gaydar awhile ago, it is not used for chatting! Its a pull joint full of perverts, hence why I do not go on anymore.
Why not sign up yourself with a dummy profile and check it out yourself? Try and find his profile, use a search for his star sign, aprox age (people lie) and look for details of height, hair colour and area he lives in - see what his profile says!
If he is being so secretive, you have to ask why? If he is only chatting whats there to hide - come on you cant be that daft?

Answer 2

Gaydar is used both for chat and meets for sex. The latter being the most common. I'd certainly be wary if he's using it a lot, there's nothing wrong in chatting on there but it's all too tempting to take up offers.

If he's changing his codes etc etc then I'd be suspecious.

Answer 3

He's either a closet gay guy or he's bi,either way his behaviour is suspicious. BUT-why does he have to tell you who's text him?Surely that's his business,how do you know he's changed his pin?Have you been snooping? That is a total invasion of privacy and if he hasn't actually done anything then he should dump you for that!I've been with my partner 9 years & don't ask her who she's getting texts off becaus it's none of my business.The same goes though with him checking your phone-change your pin too...play him at his own game!!
Gaydar isn't usually frequented by heterosexual guys,it's a gay community so i'd say he has issues there.If i was you i'd have it out with him or play him-start going on proper lesbian sites (don't start chatting with anyone though as that's unfair to the people on there looking to meet people!!),just have the addresses in your history,and 'accidentally' fail to log out etc...so he finds you've been on them.He might get the message then that 2 can play at that game. try www.planetsappho.com or www.pinksofa.com

Answer 4

sorry to hear that shane.leave him.yes gaydar is only used for sex.VERY rarely do people find love their.its only a place for guys to have sex.it does sound like he is cheating on you.
why else would he have a password?people with passwords are not to be trusted.they are always hiding something.ditch the tosser and find someone trustworthy.hes a waste of space.

Answer 5

Honey, the only reason men go on Gaydar is for sex !!!!

Your bf is probably curious and may be bi, the fact he is open about using Gaydar would send alarm bells ringing, he's trying to tell you something and you aint listening !!!!

Sit him, down and ASK !!

Answer 6

It looks as if he's probably a closet gay or bi. These sites are used mainly by gay men to find casual sex or cyber sex, very few people on these sites just to chat. There are a lot of married men or men with girlfriends that use these sites looking for a gay sexual encounter that they don't want their girlfriends or wives to know about.

Answer 7

If he doesn't let you in on his texts or phone or chats... yes... you should start preparing yourself to confront him or just break up. That level of secrecy would be enough for me.

Answer 8

how come you's don't get it? this is a joke!! of course the boyfriend is gay, they both are, god i think the name shane gives it away!!