Any single mum's with a newborn out there that I can chat too?

Question

I'm A single mum trying to bring up a newborn baby and a 5 year old. And I have just started a new relationship and the dad of my two kids is still in their lives and he is worry that the new guy will be call dad and the kids will hate him. I just need help from people who have been throw this.

I was married to their dad and he left my while I was pregnant with my son and start a relationship with a friend of mine.

Answer 1

If this new guy in your life is going to be around for a long time then I do not see any problem in the kids calling them both dad. The kids won't hate your ex unless he gives them reason not to like him and they won't really have an opinion on him unless you are saying bad things about him when they are around. I think you should let your ex know that you are going to have a relationship with this other man and he is going to be there for the every day things but he will always be their father.

I'm here to chat anytime x

Answer 2

I have a 3 year old and a newborn who just arrived on 2.1.07. i am with the newborn father. My three year old sees her daddy every sunday he started out being the jealous type, we were married. I too much didnt worry about his feelings and ignored his threats about if his child ever gets hurts what he will do to my current boyfriend and he finally gave in and realized my 3 year old is at no danger and she still saw him as her daddy. i really care more about my child and how she sees this situation, which you should do because they are most affected by this. i explain to her yes she has too daddys and since my ex is dating i tell her yes she has two mommys. I am not the jealous type so she can call the other girl mommy. She calls my current boyfriend daddy and i let her because he does everything for her. He potty trained her, teaches her the alphabets and everything else. (more of a father than her biological dad thats why i left him) I think the kids will be more happy about having two dads(as long as your current one is good to them) rather than hating their biological father. My daughter brags about her 2 daddys. She gets twice the presents at x-mas, birthdays and twice the love. I see it as a blessing because I left her father for a good reason so what he wasnt doing my current boyfriend is.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

i am single mum. I had same problem. And my first 2 kids called the new partner dad aswell. I simply said that you will always be there father and always will be but there is another man here who will also act like a dad. And will take care of your children just like you would. So the kids are lucky and please dont put any pressure on them and it may hurt. Yes he had his nose in the air. But put kids needs first. then years later i had a baby to the new man. Need to talk im here.

Answer 5

I am single. I have a 7 month old daughter. I am currently dating and her father is in her life. I think as long as the child has a steady healthy relationship with their parents , they'd be able to tell who "Daddy" is and know the difference on calling who DADDY.

My daughter is still an infant, she knows her daddy's voice and she knows he's daddy. She spends a great deal of time with him, as well as myself.
Just keep the relationship with both father and boyfriend a healthy one. Everybody must try to get along. IT'S HARD, but best for the CHILD.

Answer 6

Well, I'm not single, but I do have a newborn. I have 3 kids: 7year old, 4year old, and 2month old.

I don't think the kids daddy should worry. They'll know who their daddy is. If they do call the new guy dad, just let them know that he's not.

Answer 7

As long as the dad is still in their lives, they'll know who dad is. Decide on what they can call the "new guy" that dad will be happy with. I reenforce with my kids that they have a dad and the "new guy" is more like their friend. It worked for me. I have 3 kids.

Answer 8

I am a single mother but my son is now two. though please feel free to talk to me. The real father should not worry if he acualy sees the kids enough. now your youngest son may end up calling them both daddie if you continue in this relationship. but do not let that ruin your new relationship.

Answer 9

Why haven't you married the man who has fathered your children? He is attempting to bond with his children and you're going to bring another man in the picture to confuse and bond with the your children. For goodness sake woman, don't you see what you are putting your five-year old through? Top that with a newborn who's needs are even greater and you are working on a third child out-of-wedlock. My advice is to marry the father of your children, if only to give your children a legacy and some sense of legitimacy before you screw up your life, and theirs even more than you have already. Don't forget, these children are going to grow to be adults and hold you responsible for all the faults they observe you doing with all the men in your life. Don't be stupid again and fail your children, because pay-backs are Hell!

Answer 10

I'm a single new mom that doesn't mind chatting. My IM is qtiequawn.