I'm scared, can someone give me advice?

Question

I think I'm pregnant and the father is who I'm scared of telling about it. Me and the guy had a one night stand, I'm 18 he's 19. We're cool, but not really romantic and kissy kissy with each other. I'm afaid that when he finds out, he won't think its his, and I'd have to go through the pregnancy by myself. And I can tell it would be hard, but I'm still keeping the baby......I'm just so confused. I really like him alot, and would love to raise a fam with him.

I think I'm pregnant....Not for sure yet.....but most likely I am.....

Answer 1

Well you have to tell him regardless. if he does not think it is his, then there is something wrong with him. no matter how close you are, if you are pregnant, the responsiblity falls back on the both of you. not just one.

dont be afraid to go through a pregnancy by yourself. I am doing it right now. it just makes you strong and if you can make it through this, you can make it through anything.

Keep your head up sweetie. u can manage no matter what.

Answer 2

Welllllllllllll................see a one night stand with a guy that's not followed by a girlfriend request, is usually just that~~>A ONE NIGHT STAND. A guy at 19 that you think might deny the paternity of the baby is MORE than likely not going to be too keen on raising a family WITH you. If your CHILD is lucky then this guy will be there for it, but honestly I don't know what the hell I'd do if I d had my daughter without ANY financial support, and I am 24! I understand you're keeping your baby, I would've done the same thing. He is an idiot for barebacking with a one nighter and you are a loon too, cus now you risk your child not having a dad and living its whole life feeling abandoned and you feeling like a guilty SOB......Take the test before you tell him. I hope you aren't pregnant, wait a year or two or three until you find a man who will be there for you and your baby and want to try to make a family. It WILL HAPPEN! I promise! I was single for like four years until I found Brandon, but now my little girl has a very dedicated daddy. Before that I was lucky I didn't get pregnant (cus I could have) with a one nighter because looking back, that would have been the worst thing that could've happened at that time. I may never have found the love I found with Brandon.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

There are lots of reasons why people have intercourse, there a very few reasons why people actually choose to start a family together, that reason is called LOVE. If you are pregnant you not only should tell him but you are obligated to tell him, even if he might not be the father. Just think about it from the outside, maybe someone else was asking you what to do, what would you say? If you want him there because you feel guilty that you are having a baby and you want him to go through it with you, then tell him that, but just keep this part in mind, when men are told they are going to be fathers they react in different ways, he might be happy, scared, sad, angry. none of these emotions are going to tell you what he feels about you though, that is something the two of you need to figure out together, just don't ask him everything all at once, give him some room to breathe and soak in what you are saying to him, GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 4

You just need to find a nice place and time and tell him how much he means to you and tell him! If he gets mad or leaves you then he is not worth it. Although he might take a little while to come around. I went through the smae thing when I was 18 but I was with the guy for 2 years. He left me and my daughter is 11 now and Im married and have another child and my husband adopted my 11 year old! It will be hard if you have to do it alone but you can do it! If you are sure the baby is his make sure he pays child support its only fair. Good luck

Answer 5

Don't worry until you for sure know that your pregnant because you could be stressing yourself out for no reason at all... I think trapping a guy is really sad maybe you guys should have used protection? if he dosent want to be a part of the childs life.. theres always child support and lemme tell ya guys cant stand it when the lady gets it so whatever you decide to do will probably be the right decision but then again you had a one night stand so maybe not.. i guess good luck.

Answer 6

first off if you are pregnant it is not good for you or the baby to have so much stress so you need to just chill out and tell him as soon as you find out for sure.Just let him know you don't HAVE to be more than friends if he doesn't want to,(no pressure) wink, wink, then if he doesn't want to help you. You will have to go through the pregnancy but don't you have family that will support you? You won't be alone. And who knows he may just come around to liking the idea and want to be a part of it all after he gets his brain wrapped around the idea of being a Daddy.. LOL it takes guys a lot longer to come around than us girls. Either way God bless and stay strong. you're gonna be a Mommy! I'm envious I'm 37 years old and I have been married 7 years. I still don't have any babies to show for it. :-(

Answer 7

Congrats! (on the baby, I mean) Don't worry too much about it, because you can't predict how he'll react. There's just no way to know. So I'd go ahead and tell him--just get it out of the way. Then you can deal with his reaction. Even if he wants to stay out of the picture, it doesn't mean you have to be completely alone during your pregnancy. If you're close to your family, they'll share it with you, and so will your friends. If my sis got pregnant and the guy wouldn't be a man about it first I'd kick his *** :) then I'd totally want to be there as much as any guy could for her--I'd go with her to those pre-birth classes, hold her hand through the delivery, help her if she got sick...whatever. I'd be there for her until she met a guy who was man enough to want a family. I bet there are people in your life who would do that for you, and if this guy doesn't want to, it's totally his loss. You deserve a guy who will stick around, no matter what. And if it's not this guy, you've got another, better guy coming. Seriously.

So good luck, and blessings, and take your prenatal vitamins! :) Love.

Answer 8

1) you need to find out for sure if you are pregnant or not. Your local health department will probably be the cheapest reliable pregnacy test. Then if you are pregnant, you can sign up for WIC and Medicaid right away.
2) If you are pregnant, BEFORE you tell him, get his driver's license, social security number and date of birth. I have worked in child support enforcement, welfare, and food stamps for over 14 years. Sorry to say but sometimes men do disappear overnight.
3) You must tell him if you are pregnant, but do not use the baby to tie him down to a relationship to you. It won't work. Once the baby is born, he may request a paternity test. And please, for the sake of the child, even if he does not want a relationship with you, do not try to deny him contact with his child.
4) Tell your family, get their support.

Good luck

Answer 9

If it's his baby, he has a legal right to know. You will go through the pregnancy by yourself if you don't tell him, anyway.

By the way, I think you should discuss the situation with your parents, as you are very young to be considering parenthood--with or without a partner. (And if he's 19, it's unlikely that the relationship--since you are not dating now--will survive for very long.) Do you even realize how many people you are going to "really like" over the next 10 years?

I hope you will keep your mind open to other options and have a sincere discussion with your parents as soon as possible.

Answer 10

Well, before you stress about this any further, get yourself to a doctor and get a blood test. (I see you've asked quite a few questions along the "am I pregnant" theme....)

When women are hoping to be pregnant or fearful of being pregnant it's amazing how any changes in their bodies, however vague, are attributed to being pregnant, so before you count your chickens, find out if there are any chickens to count.

And next time, use a condom! There are worse things than pregnancy on the market - don't forget you can catch an STD AND get pregnant - and that would be a serious pickle to find yourself in.

Answer 11

Once you know for sure....... and you need to know for sure!!!

Sit down with "daddy" and tell him... but remember that guys like to think that any plan is their idea.

Tell him that you know that this is your responsibility, and that you just thought that he had a right to know. You don't expect anything from him, and you would still like to remain friends if that's possible.

Thank him for meeting you, and leave the rest up to him. If he's worth it, he'll step up and it will be his idea.... If he's not.. is he the kind of dd you want your baby to have around as a role model??

Good Luck.