Men who are married but have sex with men....?

Question

How does a woman know if their husband is meeting someone in his spare time just to do men and men sexual acts?????
Why do they feel compelled to have this experience and do you know how prevalent it is in your social circle???

Answer 1

In answer to the first question it all depends on the level of communication in a relationship. Some woman know but never discuss it using it as some sort of control over their husband. Other woman know but turn a blind eye to it hoping if it never is discussed it will never become real. Other women have their suspicions but nothing can be proved. The point is, that it may be painful talking about sexuality, but a man's reasons for doing it are quite often more than being about if he is 'straight' or 'gay' There is the 'risk' of having an affair, then there is that 'male bonding' thing that goes on. Also very often it is not about a relationship per se it is about a sexual release and then going back to their lives as if nothing had happened. The 'problem' is the longer it goes on for the more profound as effect it will have on how the man feels about his relationship with his wife. Therefore honesty and talking about things, however painful is the best way forward.
I have quite alot of experience of this sort of thing going on. I would never intentionally go with a man who was in any sort of a relationship, as I believe in being straight forward and honest about what you want and personally if someone is having a sexual relationship with me and then running home to the wife and 2.4 children there is something quite unsavory and dishonest about that!

Answer 2

I think a lot of men do this type of thing because they were secretly gay or bisexual before they got married. I also think some men think that if they have sexual relations with a man that is not the same as "cheating" with another woman.

Just make sure when if you start digging into your husband's life that you don't confuse his platonic male friendships with sexual goings-on. You will weaken your relationship with him if you do this.

In answer to your first question: Is he disappearing on you without telling you where he is? Does he not tell you who his male friends are? Or do you suspect he has male friends whom you've never met?

(And if he is a businessman and travels, you really do not know what he is up to half of the time.)

I think some are compelled to do this (oftentimes in mid-life or later life) because they may secretly be gay or more probably, bisexual.

This does go on with men, dear. You would be surprised who the men who actually do this type of thing too. Sometimes it is with people they do not know (like at bookstores). Other times they get to know a few regulars and do this on an on-going basis only within that group. One thing they never want is this: to be found out by their spouses and probably more so they don't want to be found out by their platonic, male friends who do not take part. They tend to have two sets of male friends/acquaintances: the platonic friends they socialize with and recreate with and then the other group of men (many times not really friends at all) whom they trust and have sex with. And yes, it sometimes hurts this last group of fellows that they are not at the least, considered friends. Sexual interaction tends to be very brief episodes and contact outside of a sexual context is not very likely.

Why do they do this again? My main guess is that they are secretly bisexual, not that they are really missing something in their marriage to women. It's just that it is their way of living life fully in two worlds.

I hope this helps you and does not cause you more concern or heartache. It may be that you are confusing a very healthy, platonic male friendship with something else.

Answer 3

You don't know. That's the problem. Not so much with the infidelity but with the disease potentials out there. Homosexual sex (I suppose like heterosexual sex) can be quite anonymous. Why?? We don't know why homosexuality exists. Only that it does. It is very prevalent...but it's hard to say that because straight people get up in arms and say that we think that everyone is gay..Not true...but the practice is very common.

Answer 4

This is very common, we gay men know this because the straight men are out there all the time and have been all a long.

They do this because they can have free and easy sex no strings attached they get everything they want and then just walk away still thinking they are straight!

Answer 5

The down low exists. The symptoms are the same for a man who is cheating on his wife with women. Honestly, it's the same thing. You shouldn't cheat on your wife. (or husband.)

Men cheat for many reasons. They aren't satisfied with their current relationship, they want more sex, they aren't feeling fulfilled. The big thing is that many men who identify as "straight" have sexual urges towards men that they can't satisfy within the constructs of their marriage. That doesn't mean that they are gay, or that their marriage is a lie. (Necessarily at least.)

So yes. Cheating is bad. Don't judge men differently for cheating with men instead of women. And it happens because men are horny and disrespectful.

Answer 6

She will probably find out when she gets a sexual transmitted disease, or when he's seen by someone that knows her also.

It's probably safe to assume that it's way more prevalent than anyone could possibly imagine. It is mind-boggling to me as well.

Answer 7

These men are gay and should have never been married in the first place.

Answer 8

This is not good. People should not cheat on their spouses. This is bad.

Answer 9

Man that lay with another men are perverted. We Christian cann't accept their behaviour.They obey to demons and the whole thing is that they don't even know it until they come to Jesus Christ and they can be liberated. They already open that door to demons by their behaviour. Demonds talk to men mind and they obey 'cause they are death spiritually. They are dead spiritually 'cause they are in the flesh. If they come to Jesus Christ by their own will, in a blink of an eye, the Lord can change them. Many have been liberated already. They have to accept Jesus as their Saviour, is the only way for their salvation. Lesbian and gay have been invaded by strong demons and that's why they need Jesus to reign in their heart. It means the spiritual heart. Sodom and Gomorrah, this two cities were destroy for that reason. This is against God's will. (Genesis 19).; (Romans 1:18:32). Many Christian know that this is real but they don't talk much about it. They're opposed to it.The pastors explain this matters only in their church, I guess 'cause they don't want to offend them and to be ofended. The truth is the truth. Many men lay with other men 'cause in their childhood something bad happened to them, a bad experience that bother their mind and they decide to go this way. They need to ask God for forgiveness. A woman should notice this by intuition, when her man is having a relationship with another man. It's good to get into an investigation. Sins bring sicknesses, sorrow, despair, unhappiness, etc. God do not want us to be lost sheeps. He is our Sheppard. It's necessary for them to hear the Word of the Lord. (Romans 10:17). They need help. But unless they decide to come to Jesus Christ for them to change, 'cause they cann't change by themself, nothing else can help them. When men is involve in sins it's hard for them to take a step forward to get out of something that they are already involved, they are bound to it. They should learn how to bound the demons and in this way the demons have them bound to the desire of their flesh. We can only find happiness by been in the Lord's path. Otherwise people find happiness for certain time. In Jesus Chrit is for ever unless we get out of that path, the path of Jesus Christ. We all need to walk in this path, in the path of Jesus Christ for him to reign in our heart. They feel compelled by demons forces. (2 Corinthians 3:13-17); 4:2-4). I hope this help you to answer your questions.

Answer 10

What a way to spread diseases. n