2007-02-18 18:04:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I saw a saying which read: "I must be perfect because I'm so lonely"...this could answer your question.
2007-02-18 18:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by Blonde & Sharp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not easy. They tend to be control freaks and are always trying to manage the universe. Sometimes they have related problems like being highly critical, being phobic, having anxiety or depression problems, or being obsessive-compulsive. They also tend to be cynical and pessimistic since the world is not a perfect place and, therefore, unworthy of their complete attention or compassion.
However, perfectionists can be great companions if you have an appreciation and admiration for their determination, drive, and high standards. As weird as it may sound, most perfectionists thrive on recognition, praise and acknowledgment. They seldom get that from close companions or spouses because they drive them nuts. To deliver praise, you often need to sit them down at a quiet time in their day or week, get their full attention (it's tough to take a time-out from managing the universe, you know), and tell them - sincerely - that you really appreciate something that they have done recently. Since they tend to be detail freaks, you also need to include exactly what it was that impressed you or the thing for which your thankful. Relating back to them HOW they did what they did is especially appreciated. Without this reinforcement from people that they really care about, perfectionists can sometime get into a big funk and become discouraged and morose.
Good luck. Hope this was helpful.
2007-02-19 02:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a challenge. (Some people with insecure, controlling, obsessive and compulsive behavior call themselves perfectionists. There is a difference.)
My husband is highly intelligent and obsesses over anything he attempts...whether it is at work, parking the car, taking out the trash, credit card applications, vacation planning, home improvements or attending small family gatherings.
The way he goes about things was interesting and an education when we first got married. Later I've been finding it annoying since I am all about short-cuts and speedy results.
I've had to compromise a lot. I just tell myself that there are two ways to do EVERYTHING. His way and my way. There is not right way or wrong way....just his methodical engineering way...and my down-home street smarts. He is amazed at me with my approach, and I am amazed at his approach.
It takes a while and some frustrating moments, but if you can both cut each other some slack....you'll be fine.
2007-02-19 02:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like living in a cage with a starving lion.
2007-02-19 02:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next to impossible... after all... none of us are perfect. That type of person, though, thinks if he/she can just correct you every time you err, he'll "fix" you... In the long run, they make everyone around them miserable, though.. unless they can learn to give a little.
2007-02-19 02:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frustrating. When he expects perfection from ME too. Once that was settled (I did not conform) it works out great. I admire him for his strength. And I compliment him on it often.
2007-02-19 02:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by Debi in LA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like feeling you can do NOTHING right........
2007-02-19 02:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋