Lol.
I used to have a friend, and I his parents weren't married, yet they had been living together for 15 years, and had like 3 or 4 kids. When I asked my friend why they hadn't gotten married yet, he said his parents decided they weren't ready for it.
Ironic or not? What would you call that?
2007-02-18 17:36:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say whatever works for them is fine for them.
2007-02-18 17:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IRONY:
1 : a pretense of ignorance and of willingness to learn from another assumed in order to make the other's false conceptions conspicuous by adroit questioning -- called also Socratic irony
2 a : the use of words to express something other than and especially the opposite of the literal meaning b : a usually humorous or sardonic literary style or form characterized by irony c : an ironic expression or utterance
3 a (1) : incongruity between the actual result of a sequence of events and the normal or expected result (2) : an event or result marked by such incongruity b : incongruity between a situation developed in a drama and the accompanying words or actions that is understood by the audience but not by the characters in the play -- called also dramatic irony, tragic irony
I don't know that I would call it ironic. I'd be willing to bet, though, that it wasn't a matter of being "ready for it." For some people, "marriage" has a stigma to it. Fact is, however, that they ARE married, in a sense.
MARRIAGE:
1 a (1) : the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (2) : the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage
2 : an act of marrying or the rite by which the married status is effected; especially : the wedding ceremony and attendant festivities or formalities
3 : an intimate or close union
Legally, if you've lived together as long as they have, both parents have legal rights in the relationship. It is called common law. The only thing they are missing is the piece of paper that makes it official. In reality, however, you can have a rose and call it a daisy, but it is still a rose. They are fighting against the ceremony and legal documentation, but that does not change the fact that they are married in all practical senses of the word.
In all seriousness, though, the word doesn't matter. The relationship does. Sounds like they are doing something right, despite not having the paper. They've been together for 15 years. That is more than most "married" people can say. Good for them!
2007-02-19 01:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I have to say not every one has to have that peice of paper. maybe they fell married and they are secure enough with there selfs that they don't have to get everything on paper. I think that they have a healthy relationship.My boyfriend and i have been togetter for 3 years and we both have been married before. and really don't fell the need to get it done legally.He tells people that I am his wife and we have a great relationship. I think that the piece of paper can cause problems like if you get in a misunderstanding. It can be used to say hurtful things like "I WANT A DEVORICE" so there are two side to almost everything. Something to think about!
2007-02-19 01:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by Bianca H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone believes they have to have a piece of paper to feel married to somebody. If it works for them and their happy why should anybody else care. Domestic partnership works for a great number of people including my parents, who have been together for 23 years and two children later. My parents are the happiest and funniest couple I know and yet they have never made it to the alter.
2007-02-19 01:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by ddp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe they were committed to having a family together but not necessarily to each other. Also maybe they did not know what they felt about marriage and were not ready to do it. Some people do not like the legality of marriage and skip it all together feeling that a relationship should not be about a piece of legal paper.
2007-02-19 01:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by purplegroovyrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admit that I felt committed to my wife far before we were married, and the marriage and ceremony were sort of an unnecessary step to make our commitment official. I think many people like the idea that every day they choose to be faithful rather than being faithful simply because it is legally mandated.
2007-02-19 01:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Paul 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the word marriage probably just scares alot of people, my cousin was with his girlfriend for like 16 years they have 3 kids and they just got married last year.
2007-02-19 01:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ironic, but understandable alot of parent's are getting divorce's. They just don't want to go throught all the paper work for one and alot of other stuff.
2007-02-19 01:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by leo_s09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they got married they may have been divorced by now so i guess that would be a great way to avoid divorce
2007-02-19 01:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're doing what works for them - and clearly it is ... and this just proves that marriage is not always the answer. I see nothing wrong with what they're doing - live and let live -
2007-02-19 01:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by Bite Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so they're ready to parent 4 children but not get married????? yeah i find it strange
2007-02-19 01:44:11 · answer #11 · answered by fluttering_by@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋