ok so i am 14 and i have an older brother who is gonna go to the army. we have fussed countless number of times since i moved in with him. one time i said i wish he would leave. and now he is going to the army. the only thing is is that so many fusses has been caused between us and he would blame them on me. so i dont feel bad. i dont want him to go to the army cause of this war. but i also feel that i should feel bad for what i said but i dont. should i feel bad?
2007-02-18 17:35:09 · 23 answers · asked by sillygoosetonda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i dont think so. im 15 btw.
its his idea to go to the army right?
hey, i get mad at my bro too. but i always apologize after. i kinda have a temper haha idk about you tho.
i dont think you should feel bad about it. hes going to the army because he wants to or for other reasons, not cause his little sister said he should leave. right?
hope i helpeddd.
--Vincee
2007-02-18 17:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All sibling fuss at each other. Going into the Army is your brother's choice not yours. If I were in your place, I would be sad about him leaving. I would also be happy for him too. He is doing what he thinks is best for him. Wish him well, keep him in your prayers and write him or call him (if possible) at least once a week. Tell him how sorry you are about anything you did or said to him to cause a fuss. Sometime I wish my husband would disappear. He is in another state right now working. I really miss him.
2007-02-18 17:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by pmz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't be forced to feel bad. But eber thought there's gotta be an answer as to why you don't feel bad. Maybe it's because your brother was the one who blamed you for the fusses, and now he's joining the army after you tell him you wished he would leave and you think it's your fault. he could have other reasons, maybe not. If you don't feel abd you don't have to, it's how you feel. But what you should try doing is let your brother know you didn't mean it when you said you wanted him to leave.
2007-02-18 17:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your life is your choice. If hes going to war and he is going to die, he will be at least in your heart. Even though hes your brother, you gotta love him. Hes your brother. But never wish for something bad or it might come true! Wish for something good, like wish for your brother to live during the war, if he does, then its a miricle and hes come visit you every year.
Keep the love and live it....
2007-02-18 17:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your 14 years old. while you should know better than to speak things you don't truly mean... it happens. should you feel bad? i think you already do or you wouldn't be asking us. no one can tell you whether you should feel guilty or not. your own conscience will decide that. one thing you do need to remember in the future is that words cut, like a knife, deeply. and the scars those words leave behind don't easily heal. which is why you need to think before you speak and choose your words wisely.
go hug your brother and tell him you love him. he knows you do, but it will do his heart well to hear you speak it.
2007-02-18 17:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by annie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Brother that you love him..that's all that really matters hun. Your Brother is now a man and understands these sort of things.
2007-02-18 17:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when you are young; you do crazy thing you dont mean, all sib's do stuff like that. good or bad he is still your brother and he's leaving; just make peace with him and give him a big hug; for all we know you wont see him again.
2007-02-18 17:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by winstonrb29 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's your bro...Because you can not take back what you say. He will always remmber what you said. I learned that today actually, I did. Don't beat yourself, up. I wish you both best of luck! :)
2007-02-18 17:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by This Account is not active 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you grow up, you will look back and realize what a bratty, horrible sister you were to your brother.
Until then you can sit there and justify your bad behavior in anyway that makes it all about you.
2007-02-18 17:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Rise above all that & make peace with him before he leaves.A hug will be good.
2007-02-18 17:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋