I had an affair with a co-worker who I feel in love with. I truly understand what true love is by the way we spent time together. She has pushed me aside and say she needs more time to decide about us and completely ignores me. I feel bitter and used. She should have to answer to her huband and not enjoy the best of both worlds.....What should I do? What is the right thing to do about our realtionship and,... what about her husband and is lack of knowing? She can play without any consequences? HELP>
2007-02-18 17:27:53 · 11 answers · asked by YcopyU 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is normal to want the other person who caused us pain to suffer too, u are hurt and u want her to hurt too, u feel used, and now apparently she has gone back to the hubby, and has decided to end it. that's what sometimes happens when we decide to have affairs with someone who is already married. revenge may not get u what u want, and the husband may come after u and not blame her at all. your just opening a bag of worms here, best live and learn from this most unhappy relationship. revenge just keeps u tied to her, in bitterness. just walk away and keep your dignity here.
2007-02-19 01:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you knew she was married anyway, why be bitter and do something so low as to tell her husband about the affair. Move on, have nothing else to do with her other than being simple acquaintances. You guys had a fling and now there is the possibility it is over, let it be what it was, a FLING! Involve yourself in positive relationships and not dead end ones that you know really can't go anywhere. Let's not get ugly, just because you got your feelings hurt, because eventually, if she keeps cheating on her husband, he's going to find out.
2007-02-18 17:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by la_la1977 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I feel that both of you should tell her husband about the affair because that would be the honest and noble thing that either of you can do. I do have to say that God's word says that adultery is a sin and will not be tolerated under any circumstances. Yea, you made a huge mistake by giving into your fleshly desires but she is still married and evidently doesn't love her husband otherwise she would have stayed true to her husband and honored her vows. I urge you to seek the Lord out in prayer, asking him to forgive you of your sins and repent from them, meaning that you do a 180 degree turn around and walk away before it's too late. God loves you and he wants nothing more than to see all of his children saved. Please do the right thing and if you are married you must be honest enough and tell your wife as well. I urge that you strongly read your bible and let the Holy Spirit deal with you on this.
2007-02-18 17:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by chris a 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She may be feeling she's in the worst of both worlds. Can't guess about her relationship with her husband, but she may not wish to leave him, even if she loves you. There are consequences for her, without question. Your bitter feelings are legitimate, but it's a bitter situation.
2007-02-18 17:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by his lack of knowing? I know you are not thinking of telling her husband? When he hurt you pretty bad then you think twice about messing with somebody Else's wife. If she was still slipping around with you, you wouldn't think about telling him, now that she don't want you, you want to destroy her life. Well it won't work. Go find another home to wreck. Ever thought about, you wasn't that good and not worth losing her family over?
2007-02-18 17:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got played and used. You are the other man, and you are also in the wrong. You need to learn from this experience and move on.
Her consequences will come along, but you won't be there to see it.
2007-02-18 17:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CHOSE to have an affair with a married woman...YOU got what YOU deserved. You hve no right to feel bitter and used. YOU went into it willingly
2007-02-18 17:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've got heard human beings being defined as "salty" in old adult men - like "salty as a sailor". My father used to declare on occasion that he "felt somewhat salty" while he had a pair of drinks in him and would tell grimy jokes, regardless of the undeniable fact that it wouldnt disillusioned all people.
2016-11-23 18:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by bickley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her two choices, 1- tell hubby and be with you or 2 - stop stuffing around and cheating on said husband (you might want to hope she doesn't choose this one)
2007-02-18 17:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by Ari J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her go she is married dont say a word to the husband this would destroy him . just pitty him and move on he will find out latter .
2007-02-18 17:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by dan m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋