Why won't my husband agree with me?

Question

I have supported my husband through his career and now that he is retiring I want him to be a house husband and I will earn the money. I think it is about time to have him cook and clean and I get to go to work every day. Would other men go for this? I think there are a million things he can do around the house every day

I did work while he was working, I just feel that he should take it easy and I can finally let my career take off. Do you see anything wrong with this? He thinks that it is a man's job to work and take care of the wife.

Answer 1

Ok, at the risk of angering the Gods of Immortal Maleness, I am a "house-hubby". I just retired from the Air Force in September. My wife and I have discussed the issue of me entering the civilian workforce and we've decided that I will stay home and take care of the house and kids.

We both love it!

I spend my days keeping the house clean, dusted, and vacuumed. Dinner is ready by the time she gets home from work. I even have a bath drawn for her and waiting when she walks in the door.

When we both worked, we would spend all of our days working and then when we got home, we'd try to do the housework, fix supper, tend to the kids, etc. By the time the weekend got here, we would both be short-tempered and exhausted.

Now, it's different. When she gets home from work, the house is clean. The kids have been taken care of (homework, baths, schedules, etc.). The only thing she has to do is relax with me. When the weekend gets here, we both feel like cuddling and playing, or going out for dinners and movies, or going to art shows, or whatever.

The point of all of this is this: tell your husband that I said it's great! Tell him to stay home and be a house-hubby. This is the 21st century... guys don't have to be the bread-winner now. Besides, remind him that he's already earning a living. It's called a retirement check!

Answer 2

Sounds like you need to find some common ground. Have you told him how important your career is to you and how you've looked forward to being able to do this for years? Could you both work and hire someone to clean the house? Can you both work and then spend Saturday or Sunday cleaning and cooking the meals for the week together?

I would guess that somewhere there is common ground. As for other men...some would LOVE it while others would hate it. It really depends on the guy.