I live with a very dramatic and stress inducing individual who constantly complains, worries, whines, expects pity, and is generally just very negative all the time. Literally NOTHING but negativity comes out of her mouth daily, and when someone (I) is trying their best to stay in a positive mindset, it's very hard to do so when I'm constantly reminded of everything negative. She causes me an abundance of stress, and though lately I've been trying very hard to improve myself when it comes to getting stressed etc., it's hard to so because she breaks me down and brings out the worst in me. I do not hold a driver's license at this time and I don't have much of a social life, so I'm constantly around her. I am not financially independent as I'm only 17, so I also can't move out. I can't get away from her. So what CAN I do, to deal with this? Thank you in advance. I appreciate your time and advice.
2007-02-18 16:49:20 · 5 answers · asked by Bee 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You need to get away from her. Find a part-time job so you are not at home as much, save the money, then move. Please do this. The negativity will drag you down - you are too young, yet in your prime, to have to deal with this. Be financially independent, then run!
2007-02-18 17:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by yolkyolk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ot depends on what position in the household she assums. Is she your mother? or a sibling? She DOESN'T control you if she isn't your guardian. You do have rights. Find any possible way to get out (it must be safe). Go to a friends or another family member. Spend as much time away from home as possible. Also, try your best to find a job and get your liscense. My brother is 23 and still doesn't have a liscense so don't feel bad. It is one of the key things to becoming independant. When i turn 16 I want to get my liscence right away.
2007-02-19 01:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by Robin Hip Hop Hoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by the sounds of it.can this person be your mom..if so moms may seem to be unbreakable,but maybe this person is not truly happy with themselves..and as for you being 17.you need to go out there in the world and live and find ways to enjoy yourself..maybe this person feels responsible for you not having much of a life..go join different events.you must have things that you find interesting.and maybe this person well begin to see that she is not a failure..
2007-02-19 01:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by irishgirl1280 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some earphones, earplugs, or something to plug your ears. And when she starts talking to you just look at her and point to your ears shrug your shoulders and signal that you cant hear her and walk away.
Or just ask her, "Why are you so self-centered?"
2007-02-19 00:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by izzitonme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as often as you can, compliment her.. her hair, clothes, words, food, anything you can think of... try to be the first to speak.. she is very very sad and hurting.. after a while you will see a difference..
2007-02-19 01:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by wv_country_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋