"You disgust me and I wish I never met you. Your trash just like the girl you got pregnant and you belong with her, you are two of a kind, you are both alike in many ways, you are coward and I truly hate you!"For the record...he left me to be with a one night stand he got pregnant before we met, I helped him come to terms with it because he was a coward and couldnt face it only to leave me to get to know her, and I found out while I was in the hospital, and he was with her. He was so cruel to me and told me never to call me again. I never did anything to him but help him. Anyhow, they aren't together anymore, because I think he realizes she is not all there. But I want to know, no matter how defensive he got, do you think that hurt him?? Please dont tell me to grow up, we are in our twenties and if you only knew what he put me through. I do want him to hurt and regret what he did. Sorry but its the truth. I also told him my family and friends know what happened. I know he was very
2007-02-18 16:45:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ashmaed about what happened. He was even suicidal and who was there for him...me. I am sorry but I am going to be thruthful and say I want him to hurt and regret what he did to me. He cant even talk to me. But I want to know from a psychological pointof view...do you think he is hurt or is hurting or can someone be so disgustingly selfish. He is 29 and a teacher, he knows better, but does he relaize what he lost in all of this?? I know I sound bitter, but it was extreme and horrible. How would you have handled it, sometimes I wish I never called him again, but I was not strong enough and very hurt.
2007-02-18 16:46:49 · update #1
This is some story---lets cut to the chase---you are all misty over whatever the story is here---before I get to him--lets discuss you. why are you still in the picture? Are you supposed to be his mommy? Pick up after him when he did all the stuff he did? You need to move on. You seem to exhibit care taker syndrome---you CANNOT right any of these wrongs.That's a fact--so stop it.He is another issue. Non-committal, insecure, unfaithful, dishonest, disrespectful, and a manipulator. Suicide??? That was to get you to feel sorry--and stay around---and you fell for it because he KNEW you would play nurse maid to him. He is not hurt---he just won't face reality and he won't take care of the mess he made--a baby without support or a father---what a low-thing to do. If you stay with him or give him any more thought, you are in a self destructive mode---and he is going to just continue with his acquired actions---he is cunning--knows how to pull your chain--that is disgusting. You said he is a teacher?? I wish I knew where.
2007-02-18 16:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the person that he is. some people don't have a conscience so no matter what you say they will never hurt. I think you however are the one that is hurting now. when you get over him, and trust me you will, the anger and pain will go away and that is more satisfying then ever wondering , did I make him hurt...People say living well is the beat revenge and you know what as cheesy as it sounds it is true.
I know Ive been there and you will find happiness even if it seems bleak at this point. I bet once you are happy and he doesn't hear from you he will come crawling back that's when you'll know what you said at the end was heard.
2007-02-19 01:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry! I know you want him to hurt, I'm not going to give you trash about how you shouldn't. 'No man [or woman] should be punished for his [or her] thoughts.' I don't think that he feels regret. He doesn't seem like the kind of person. Move on, and forget him. Don't forget what he was like, so you can dig out hte people like him, and avoid them, but forget him. Confusing-- yeah, I'm half asleep, but I asure that my advice is what I would give you when I'm 100% awake. I'm really sorry again, hope my advice helps.
2007-02-19 00:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that telling him how low you think of him in the heat of the moment would hurt him, and I think that exposing his actions to friends and family would also hurt him.
But it sounds like it hurt you too, not only to experience what he put you through, but to sever everything in such a harsh way. I just hope you find someone who deserves you and your heart. Don't settle :)
2007-02-19 00:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by theShinning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, get over this anger-I understand where you are coming from , but please, leave him be, and get on with your wonderful life without him in it. You holding onto this bitterness, anger, whatever you may want to call it, will only hurt you in the long run. Honest. Take care.
2007-02-19 00:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do thnk he is hurting, and i would have handled the situation in the same way that u did. u are right to want him to hurt too, that is natural. and everyone feels like that in situations like that.
2007-02-19 00:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by rramkay01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that's harsh. oy, if my girlfriend did that to me and I love her so much, I would be pleading to her to take me back and change my ways.
2007-02-19 01:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said what you felt. and yes he his hurting. good for you!!!!
2007-02-19 00:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by lynnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋