My boyfriend and I wrestle sometimes, but he takes it too far. he doesnt hurt me badly, but when I've had enought and want to stop he doesn't listen. He keeps going and won't leave me alone. I try everything and he just doesn't get it. He thinks I overreact about it, but I think he should respect my feelings.
2007-02-18 16:27:14 · 9 answers · asked by Nicole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes - any physical behavior that cause hurt to someone else is abuse. It is also immature to continue doing so if he is asked to stop. When you ask him to stop he evidently doesn't know what the word "no" means. There are many other guys out there that treat a girl right. Don't waste your time with this loser.
2007-02-18 16:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady,
Yes, rough wrestling is abuse. You have let him go too far and now he doesn't want to stop. Why should he when you are giving him the go ahead to hurt and abuse you further? Why should he respect your feelings when you don't even respect them yourself? It is only going to get worse. He's going in for the kill. So make out your will. Leave him! Stop seeing him! If you were a dog you would probably rescue it. Then consider yourself a dog and rescue yourself.
2007-02-19 01:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by DARMADAKO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know he has crossed a line. When you are not wrestling bring the subject up that it's not okay with you when he wrestles too roughly. Maybe you want to come up with a code phrase that you agree upon in advance. That way he knows you're not playing around. When you say the phrase that's his cue to immediately stop. Your job is not to abuse the word. If he doesn't comply you know it's time to re-evaluate the relationship.
2007-02-19 00:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by pepway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is,and more than likely after a point he is not playing He is taking his frustrations out on you.That is abuse and you should get out of that so called relationship before you get hurt very badly.You are not over reacting,and he should respect your feelings.(test him).Tell him that you do not want to wrestle with him anymore.Now you have to remember that you can't start play wresting with him,or he'll think that it is OK to grab you and do what ever.If or when he starts it,tell him to stop and mean it.If he continues,even after you say stop you don't want to play like that any more.He is out to hurt you in the first place,and you should get rid of him as your boyfriend or even as a friend.If someone loves you,they will not physically or mentally hurt you.They will respect you and your feelings.Breaking it off may hurt,but not have as bad as the hurt he will inflict on you if you stay.
2007-02-19 01:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend should respect your feelings. He should stop when you say to stop. He needs to remember, that you are not a man, you are a woman or girl. If you don't like to be wrestled with, then don't do it. You think he would want to jump rope with you? I don't think so.
2007-02-19 00:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few years baxck some kids were charged with murder for wrestling too hard. which led to the death of a sibling. Assault begins when consent ends.
2007-02-19 00:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by D S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a safe word that when said, stops everything. If he doesn't respect it, then it is abuse and you need to get away.
2007-02-19 00:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were sex, this would be considered rape.
This is good reason to find a different boyfriend who actually respects you.
2007-02-19 00:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure as heckfire can. Tell him to stop or you will drop him.
2007-02-19 00:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by realst1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋