Ugh!! This is horrible!?

Question

I am so sick of reading "15 and pregnant what do I do?" Why is it so easy for teenagers to get pregnant rather than us women who are actually trying because we WANT a baby and will care and love our baby? All these teenagers say "it was an accident" or "Why am I pregnant?" When all us other women are asking "Why am I not pregnant?" It is almost heartbreaking seeing all these younger girls easily getting pregnant and not even wanting a baby when other women who actually want a baby have the hardest time! :(

My heart, sympathy, prayers, and fingers crossing, go out to all you other women TTC!!!

btw I am in my mid 20's, and I have only been with my dh and nobody else, but yet all these girls are asking "Who's my baby's daddy?" :( But I am actually looking into adopting. So some extra tips on that would be great. Thank you everyone for taking the time to read and respond. All answers are appreciated! Take care!

btw I am in my mid 20's, and I have only been with my dh and nobody else, but yet all these girls are asking "Who's my baby's daddy?" :( But I am actually looking into adopting. So some extra tips from men or wome who have adopted would be great. Thank you everyone for taking the time to read and respond. All answers are appreciated! Take care!

Answer 1

Amen, sister !! I've been in your shoes and felt the same exact way. I tried to get pregnant for a while but never could. Of course, I'm in my mid-thirties trying to conceive so that explains the difficulty. But it doesn't seem fair that so many people that shouldn't be mothers yet are easily getting pregnant and we're left wondering "WHY NOT ME ???" Like the old cliche goes...no one says life is fair and some people aren't as fertile. Maybe we're not meant to be mothers ? We'd like to be. I tried but maybe I really wasn't ready. If it doesn't happen for you...you could adopt or be a foster mom but I know it's not the same as having your own baby. Hang in there and pray for a baby.

Answer 2

Prime age for pregnancy is 14 tru 20 something. Lo twenty something like maybe 26. Back in the day people did not live that long. Once you where 18 you where really an adult. People by 24 would had lived a lot and seen a lot. I think Alexander the great conquered most of the knowned world at 22 or 24. Anyways, in his 20. In todays society we have great things but pay for those great things too. In order to help the economy we tell young people to wait. Study and build your career then have kids. Well, there is a thing as too late to have kids. This is what we are seeing now. As you get older the chances of bad things happening to the baby while you are pregnant also increases. The older the worst the odds are.

It seems that there is never a good age to have a kid now a days. Too young then you are not ready. Well, that is not true. You are more than ready physical wise. What they mean to say economical wise. Mental wise who knows. Maybe maybe not. Probably you are more prepare mental wise if you get older. If we wait too long then it gets difficult to have a baby. I mean in our 20's we are building our careers so kids get in the way. At 40 is a bit too late. So when is a good time? Never. So might as well have them anytime.

When young girls say that they don't know how it happened they might not be lying. We as kids are over protected. We think that nothing bad is ever going to happen to us. So, they don't think they can become pregnant or maybe they don't know what makes you pregnant.

As an adult we abuse our bodies. Years and years of chemicals put into our bodies can take their tolls.

Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. Keep trying and hopefully your dream will come true.

Answer 3

There is no real solution to this old-as-humanity problem, but a step in the right direction would be to make adoption planning something more socially acceptable among teens. So many teenagers think that their options are parenting or abortion, thinking that adoption plans are somehow an inferior choice. What could get adoption into the teenage public eye as something positive or cool? A prime-time TV show about a young birth mother as main character, showing a good open-adoption relationship with the adoptive family?

Answer 4

I agree with you in that the young girls today getting pregnant is a little out of control. However, I guess one of the reasons they can get pregnant easier is because of age (and plus they have more eggs) and they don't have the same wear and tear on their bodies as older women do. But the same can be said for some older women who smoke and drink and get pregnant and some women don't and have trouble conceiving. It's just nature, but I see a lot more women today from all backgrounds that have difficulty getting pregnant. And the media coverage of all the celebrities having kids is ridiculous. What makes them so special. I just think people should concentrate on themselves and try not to worry too much about others. It will happen..

Answer 5

Jimmychick: Relaxing is not going to fix a legitimate medical problem. It WILL NOT make a woman ovulate or make her husband have enough sperm to get her pregnant. Women who have problems getting pregnant find this hurtful and offensive...so just don't say it. It's very inconsiderate.

To the OP: I am behind you 100%. DH and I have been TTC for over two years and seeing the teenagers with those questions or the women who freak out because it took them a whole 5 months to get pregnant wears on you after a while. I try to think that most babies of teenagers will be adopted out to couples like me that have horrible problems having their own.

I truly wish I could say something to make you feel better...but there's nothing. I wish you the best.

Answer 6

The book was made more to warn them of what could and too often does happen to teens who are more likely to take risks. Adults are a different matter. Some people it seems you just look at them funny and they get pregant. Others have to time it and work at it more. Everyone is different and there are different factors that can make getting pregant difficult if not impossible. Some men have so low a sperm count that by most accounts they can be considered sterile. Women can have other issues. If you haven't already, talk to your doctors about possible options. It may surprise you.

Answer 7

I hear you, I am not trying to get pregnant myself but I can imagine how fustrating this is for you. The bottom line is all of their parents obviously arent doing their job of parenting or teaching them responsibility. 15 year olds shouldnt be having sex period. Keep trying and it will happen when you least expect it. One of my girlfriends was actually tested and found out she couldnt get pregnant at all. So she applied for adoption and waited 2 years to adopt a baby and spent a good $200,000 on the baby, which she loves to death. But guess what happened the month she got the baby? She got pregnant and had her own daughter as well. So dont give up!!! Good luck and I hope everything works out for you. :-)

Answer 8

I know how you feel...I have been in both situations I got pregnant my senior of high school by accident. Well now that I am married and 22 I'm trying to have another baby but Its not happening I wish I would have been more great full when he was born. Just because 15 year old are having baby's doesn't mean they wont have problems in the future. God luck to you :)

Answer 9

Yeah, Life can really suck that way! Here is a thought, though. Many people who adopt, often soon conceive thier own children. It's weird, but true, Plus you would be helping those children born to "children" who cant or wont take care of them.

Answer 10

True, it's a cruel truth. Apparently God set us up to have kids earlier in life than we are ready to. Hopefully some of these 15 year olds are putting their children up for adoption for a good home that can better afford them.