I cheated...?

Question

I cheated on my husband of a year and I feel really guilty. Do you think that I should ever tell him?

Answer 1

No, don't tell.......it's a hard hurdle to get over. As long as you feel guilty you'll do the right thing......

Answer 2

Do not listen to these scumbag women. The ones telling you not to tell are wh0res, plain and simple. Do not be one of these women. If you don't tell your husband, you are a liar everyday. How fair is to him? What did he do to deserve it? How can you do something that bad and then lie to him forever afterwards? That makes it so much worse. I can't believe you or anyone would ever consider not telling him. How can people live like this? Look anywhere on the internet. Women cheat WAYYYYYYY more than men. They just don't have the nerve to own up to it. Do the right thing. No matter how things end up, you have that.

Answer 3

tell him asap.he needs to know.the only reasoning for cheating is greed.
what if he finds out some day from some one else?if you be honest with him maybe he will forgive you .but you need to be honest with him.you made a mistake and hopefully you don't cheat on him again remember he makes mistakes too .he might not have cheated but we are all human.but what ever he decides to do forgive or not forgive he has the right.

Answer 4

I cheated on my husband too few years ago when I went to business trip with a male colleague whom I did not have any feeling. When I finally told him things went really out of control. He took a mistress and declared than I can have whoever I want and vice versa. We still stay together because of the kids and because I still love him. I regreted the day I told him. My advice is keep the secret if you still want to keep your marriage.

Answer 5

Yes, tell him...it will be a dark cloud hanging over you of which will come back and haunt you someday when you least expect it. The best thing to do is own up to your responsibility and let the chips fall where they may, in the long run you will be a better person for it and your husband in time (how long I don't know) will respect you for being honest.

Answer 6

Turn it around - how would you like to find out he cheated on you - let's say 20 years after the fact? What would you say - "Oh my god you've been lying to me for 20 years and I've been living a lie for 20 years."

So, you better own up and face the confrontation and get it over with.

EDIT: I guarantee you every last woman on here saying 'take it to your grave' would KILL their husbands for doing the same. Fess up, face the music, you made your bed now lie in it, and all those other classics.

Answer 7

U have to sort it out otherwise it wud stay on ur mind ur whole life and wud destroy ur marriage, ur better off getting of ur chest, but let me tell u sumin, girls who cheat are desperate, insecure and dirty minded, belive me , trust me, u cant use excuses, women are meant to be more respectful, more maturer, more emotional, women are symbol of attraction and beauty anf for some to go over to guys and throw themsves is desperation and morally wrong, also wrong for men BUT it always looks more worse for the women, and they get called all sorts of names slappper, slaat, trt, etc, women who cheat dnt have self respect, no dignity and always end up alone rejected,, though if u dnt tell him there is always gonna be away this comes out, what goes around comes around , rember that, u have to tell him, at least u got it off ur chest, if he leaves then he wud have left anyway for somehtign esle, but longer u dnt tell da longer itr makes thigns worse.

Answer 8

I think that you should go to counseling and talk to a counselor. They will tell you how and the best time to tell him. Yes you do need to tell him because your marriage should be built on trust. There is no trust between you if you cheated and you need to earn that trust back.

Answer 9

Ok, It seems that everyone is out to hang a guy when he cheats but not when a woman cheats, unless she is the other woman.
I guess it is ok to lie but not to cheat. You need to decide what you can live with.

Answer 10

Do you want to stay in your marriage? If you do then you really should tell him about this. Just remind him that your vows did cover for better or for worse. Let him know that you understand that he is hurt and that it may take time for him to forgive you but you are willing to work on it.