My girlfriend (15) and I (16) have been dating for three months now. Only problem is that her parents don't agree and do not want us dating. They even want to forbid her from seeing me! I know I should respect their decision (they're her parents, after all) but I can't help it! I love her so much, and I can't lose her. What do I do?
2007-02-18 15:32:08 · 14 answers · asked by Not done with love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i had the same problem actually. i know your thinking its just lyke romeo and juliet. it is....i completely agree and its unfair. well it didnt work out for me but i think with my advice it can work for you. what you have to do is you have to gain repect of the parents. you should definitely talk to them and let them know you arfe in love with their daughter. you have to be honest with them. theyll repect you. i promise you they will. let them know your intentions are good and you just want her to make her happy and that you would never hurt her. after a while they should get over it and let her go out with you. good luck!!!!! hope i helped!
2007-02-18 15:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by truesayokay9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's 15? Here's a novel idea; ASK HER how she feels!
If you speak to her about this and she continually acquiesces to her parents' wishes, this may not be a girl you'd be too interested in dating. In that situation, you have a girl with little mind of her own, and also a girl with little experience or desire in deciding for herself what is in her own best interest.
If she doesn't like it either and agrees to keep on seeing you, then there's hope. The next step is for HER (not you) to confront her parents and ask them what the specific issue is.
They may not like the idea of her dating at all until a certain point, which would indicate that they're pretty unreasonable; useless to try and change their minds, so keep the relationship incognito until that "certain point".
They may have a personal issue with you (or your past or your family); she needs to find out what this is, and then talk to you if it's a valid reason for their objections. If this is the case, then request that they speak directly with you, as you should have the right to hear it from their mouths.
Never make this mistake; opinions deserve to be respected, not decisions.
2007-02-18 15:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is most likely not the girl you are going to grow up and marry. See her at school, be together but don't try to push her parents. The more they push her, the more she will probably want to rebel. I would try and respect her parents but if you guys aren't going out on dates, then I wouldn't have a problem with it. Is it they don't want her to date anyone or just you? Good luck.
2007-02-18 15:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by Army Wife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got to respect her parents decision. Sneaking behind their backs certainly is not going to get you in their good gracious. So the best thing to do is lay low until her parents are ready to let her date. If you can't respect that, maybe you need to move on.
2007-02-18 16:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by la_la1977 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Respect the parents wishes, wait until she is 16, most parents allow dating at that age. if you love her then learn to be patient
if she is indeed worth the wait and your love is real you can do this
2007-02-18 15:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better obey their wishes or they will never trust you. Parents always find out and when they do, it will be really bad for you. She is too young to date. Accept it and wait. You can see her in school and possibly talk on the phone. Maybe she can get her parents to allow her to invite you over to watch TV or a movie.
2007-02-18 15:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain to her parents why you and her should be seeing each other. Tell them that you'll do everything they say on the dates and will respect their rules. Becuz fathers are like that becuz they want their girl not to be a slut and be pregnant. so don't huv sex with her. until its right. if u do. get a condom with the right size. but i'd say keep it safe and don't do it at all. even thought she pleeds say no.
2007-02-18 15:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it is love then it will all work out after alll you wont be losing her she can't see anyone so if is meant to be then when the time is right it will all work out
2007-02-18 15:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by rocky 21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect her parents wishes but change they're wishes
there must be reason they don't want her dating u find out wat it is and convince them to let her like be the most respectful and have the most manners and beg them to let u date her just kiss up
2007-02-18 15:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by ME! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
see eachother but not 'dating' just as friends until her parents warm up to you
2007-02-18 15:36:10 · answer #10 · answered by [♥] Nat Wolff is my lover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋