Have you felt this way before? ++++++++++++++++++++?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for a year & have been friends with him for a long time beforehand.

When he sees one of his girly friends, he screams out their name & hugs them. He lights up. Today it hit me... why isn't he like that when he sees ME? We were at the bowling alley w/ friends & he was hugging her and everything. I just sat there. I bowled a strike & no one even saw it... not even my boyfriend because he was busy w/ his girly friend. People asked why I'm not smiling. I said, "I can't smile ALL the time!" He eventually gave me attention again & said I looked sad. I said, "I bowled a freakin' strike and no one even saw it." He had a smile on his face & said I'm jealous. I was like, "Jealous of what?" He said it's all about me while he was still smiling. He hugged me & said sorry tho.

I guess I'm just sad he doesn't light up when he sees me like he does with his friends. After all this time, I NEVER felt this way before. It's weird. Has anyone else felt this way before?

Answer 1

oh yeah. I have had this happen. If you can think back, and you see it's always been this way, then you should talk to him about it, and if it doesn't change then you should stop seeing him. Friends are important, but when you see someone for a year, they should be taking a little bit higher of a place than when you first started dating.

Answer 2

yes i felt that way before and guess what? i found out he was still seeing the young lady. Have you ever had a bad feeling, like you know a enter feeling when you know somethings wrong. Well that's the feeling you should be listen to.

Answer 3

Sounds as if he takes you somewhat for granted. Maybe if YOU stayed away for a week, he'd greet you like some long-lost friend...then again, you might BE one by then. But not likely; you just don't know what you've got 'till it's gone! Make him long for you, but not for too long!

Answer 4

Have you tried asking him? Let him know it bothers you that he gives them more attention than you. You don't mind him having friends and hugging them, but you want to know why he doesn't light up when he sees you. Good luck.

Answer 5

yes. i was very possessive about my friend and always compared myself with her boyfriend and would feel bad when i wasnt treated as special as her boyfriend. if u get too intrusive and express yourself, u will be the loser. so be careful.it may be hard for him, but there r more chances he might choose his gf over you. u dont want that right. give him his space.focus yourself on something that will keep u busy, so u dont worry about this.

Answer 6

I think its over , now he is bored with your body and company , that's why he is searching others to be happy or get a kick of excitement . It is very common , when young adults try to impress and are in hurry to get laid , better you also re-organize your life and thinking too to be happy in future.

Answer 7

listen to army wife and then stop being high maintenance...if ur. don't lurk around be part of hius enthusiasm. AND also, realize that he won't change. if u know that u don't want this call it quits.

Answer 8

i think we have all pretty much felt that way..but honestly i think thats messed up of him to do that..i mean..the attention should be towards you..not his girl friends..because ur the one hes with..i think you should talk to him..eventhough hes going to tell you youre just jelous..let him know how you feel..he SHOULD understand..

Answer 9

try the same thing on him and watch him re-act!! you got to stop being too available to him.

Answer 10

Just ask him very casually: When we break up soon, will you welcome me with your big smile when we cross paths like you do with others?