My husbands company is sending him to West Palm Beach, Florida. Neither of us have ever been. And neither of us have ever been on a plane. I happen to be jealous. I want to go to have the experience, but he will be in seminars all day and I'm not comfortable going out on the town during the day by myself.
So my delima is this: I don't want to spend the money to go (probably on a different flight and getting my own transportation) and then sit in a hotel room by myself all day, but I want to go. Also, for some reason he doesn't want me to go (and I can't be positive but I don't think he's cheating on me, he never has - after 7 years of marriage I haven't had any evidence of it). I don't want him to feel like I'm a tag-a-long, but the more he doesn't want me to go, the more determined I am to go.
Any opinions on this matter? Am I over reacting?
2007-02-18 15:23:56 · 12 answers · asked by Angel D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, we have probably only spent a total of 10 days apart in the last seven years. I know he needs time away, but I am lost when he's not here.
2007-02-18 15:41:04 · update #1
I'm not accusing him of cheating. I honestly don't think he would. He's a great guy. I only included that in the statement to exclude the answers that would include
"the obvious - he's hiding something" crap.
2007-02-18 16:01:47 · update #2
You need to just let him go take care of business and don't worry about this anymore. You would be bored and lost in a place you've never been. He doesn't want you to go because he knows it's senseless. Just tell him he's right, there's no sense in you tagging along and then if you have to...pretend it's not on your mind anymore. You can't speculate if he's cheating if there's no reason for it. When he returns you'll see if he misses you or not. Good luck.
2007-02-18 15:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by ramblingongirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, you are a jealous person, that you can't even let your husband out of your sight by him going on a company business trip. This trip is not about you, it is about him and his job.
He probably doesn't want you to go because he already knows how you are and that you are going to be complaining the minute you get into the hotel room and he doesn't want hear the nagging from your mouth. That's why he doesn't want you to go with him. You want to go because you think he will cheat on you, am I right? Otherwise, you wouldn't tag along with him to this trip. You don't trust him at all. Sorry to say.
The only thing you are doing right now is forcing yourself to go, when he doesn't want you there. This is not your trip, this is his because it is a business trip. You are just making it more harder for him by not trusting him. I really think that you are overreacting, and he should go on this business trip alone. If you love him that much, you would trust him and let him go alone. If he loves you that much, he would never cheat on you either. This is about him, not you. When he is gone, just have him call you so you could at least hear his voice.
Then when he gets back, you two should plan on taking a trip together!
2007-02-18 16:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 20 years, and I would feel as you do over this situation. The more he didn't want me to go, the more determined I would get, and the more wondering if he was cheating would be going on in my mind. And wondering for the most part..why it is he doesn't want me to go???
(Yea Yea...I understand breathing room)
Your shouldn't allow yourself to feel like your a tag-along, he is your husband. Go if you want to go, but find something to do during the day. Maybe you could get a friend or family member to go along with you, to be your company during the day?
And on a second thought, if he is cheating....and you push to go, it could cause him to probaly cancel going at the last minute, unless he's really slick. It would be kinda hard to have a date with the wife along.
Besides, I would want to know the reason behind him not wanting me to go. Whats he got planned that I can't be there for or he doesn't want me around.
And one more thing? Does his company offer seminar often?
2007-02-18 16:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you dont want to spend the money for a ticket, if you dont want to travel alone to meet him, if you dont want to sit in a hotel room all by yourself, and if youre uncomfortable about going out by yourself, whats the problem. Maybe if you "tagged" along he would feel responsible for giving you a good time, because it is obvious you dont know how to do it on your own. He probably wants to get on with business without having to worry about you and your needs. You dont want to go, you just want to go because he doesnt want you to. From what you say, I can understand why he wouldnt want you to go. .....he would feel totally tied down to making you have a good time than concentrating on why he is there in the first place.
2007-02-18 15:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is, you need to let him go and do his work. What is more important your incessant need to be tied to his hip or your livliehood? If I were him, I would be wondering. If you spent 10 days a part in the last 7 years, and you are accusing him of cheating?? If you keep this up, I assure you, he will cheat, he will figure why not? She is only going to accuse me of it anyway. Let him breath!
2007-02-18 15:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to be jelous, but it could also be that you have perhaps not been away from him for so long a period of time and you are frightenend. I recommend you talk to him openly and honestly about your feelings. I think you should let him go this time, but with him promising that you both will take a trip together this year.
2007-02-18 15:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by Fyre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't your trip. Let him go, it's business. I know you want to go and you're jealous! But plan a vacation together. He probably doesn't want you to see him pee his pants with fear on the plane. Let him go do this, then, plan a nice vacation together for later in the year. Be a nice wife! He's probably a good man, and they're hard to find!
2007-02-18 15:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might want to frivolously say i'm no longer positive what they are talking about. Then ask them what the crime is they are talking about and ask how and why they imagine it replaced into me. i might want to then supply them a proof on why it wasn't me. in the experience that they nevertheless want to trust it replaced into me, so be it, i will allow them imagine incorrect, the reality will come out one way or yet another.
2016-10-17 07:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only reason he doesnt want you to go is because hes nervous, and probly wants to not be distracted. Its stress about his job. I hate to say it but he probly doesnt want the stress of you being jelous either, so just be cool and see what happens. If you go just make it easy and realize hes under some pressure.
2007-02-18 15:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by James 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't want you to go cuz you'll get bored and he doesn't have time to take you out and have fun with you cuz he will be stuck in seminars all day.
Let him go alone this time and make him promise that on your next vacation you will both go to Florida and have fun.
2007-02-18 15:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋