how much foreplay do you women get before sex?
My man seems to think foreplay isn't so important like either none at all or only a quick couple of minutes of it. He's already been spoken to about it. Is this normal for a man?
And in your relationship do you experience a lot of foreplay b4 sex? or not
2007-02-18 15:10:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I'm not a woman, but i usually plan 20 minutes at least, more if she wants me to lick her pussy, If oral is involved, I try and make her *** at least 3 times before ai even think about intercourse.
2007-02-18 15:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I get as much as I need....we have an open communciation in and out of the bedroom.
You've communicated your need to him but HOW did you communicate it? Men can be trained--all of them--if they don't know they're being trained. Do you moan and squirm and tell him what feels good? And if he's ready to move to the next level and you are not "ready" yet, just say so. I'm not hot enough or wet enough should do it.
Talk Sex with Sue is on and she just answered this question with this info, too...he has to be respectful of your physical and emotional wellbeing and that includes sex.
Find some info online and share it with him. Show him what you mean by foreplay...some men think foreplay is a few turns on the nipps and pat on the muff. Talk with him and find out what his definition of foreplay is and then let him in on your definition and come to a compromise.
Good luck.
2007-02-18 23:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Normal for a guy but he needs the object lesson - you are an oven - he is a blowtorch. He is white hot after you just flick him once or twice. You need 45 minutes of warming up before you can even put in the main course!
So, plan on starting at say 20-25 minutes of foreplay and extending it over time. Encourage him as you go. Best way? Get some chocolate body paint (it's very light and not too fat or heavy). Dab it on your wrists, backs of your knees, ankles, behind ears, neck, back of neck, inside elbows, lips, cheek, thighs, shoulders - anywhere but his two favorite places that turn you on as part of foreplay.
Tell him he has to take 25 minutes to find it all and kiss you clean. Can't go anywhere else until all the chocolate is gone. If he can't find it tell him to look harder. Reward him if you get my drift. Everybody's happy. Next time add him whispering, etc. Next time make it a sensual massage with a nice scented oil. He will have plenty of fun and you'll get your foreplay and it will become part of lovemaking as it should be.
2007-02-18 23:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL, some men think foreplay is turning the lights off. I did say.."Some MEN". (before I get flogged) And it is normal for some men....
Its good that you spoke to him about it, there is nothing better for a sexual relationship than being honest.
Let me tell you what I would do, and this happened to me. The next time the two of you are beginning and he goes from foreplay to sexual intercourse in 1 split second, make it a game. Kindly whisper to him, "not yet, you forgot something", then led him the next step, and again...and again, till your ready.
Eventually, he'll get the idea, and it won't take a fight or a talking too to get him to do it, just make him follow your lead.
2007-02-18 23:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Minimum of 20 minutes, definely no less and only foreplay. He needs to be doing the right things within the 20 minute time. Let him know what turns you on. If he doesn't want to do this then tell him to hit-the-road for several reasons. 1. Any guy that is sexually selfish is going to be selfish and self centered in all areas (my opinion). 2. If you are not turned on, then don't have sex. Your pleasure is equally, or more important,then his.
2007-02-18 23:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Diver 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Either does my husband. When we have sex, he is all about himself and it gets frustrating. I have showed him what I like, and would like him to do, but it dont work. I have even tried doing something extra special for him that way he would be nicer to me and nothing. So as far as foreplay, I could only wish. But I know how you feel by that, foreplay always makes everything alittle better, even if they dont do it right, but its the point.
2007-02-18 23:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by sneekygirl69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband does alot of foreplay and oral to get me in the mood and ready and i love it and him for it:) He thinks of my needs along with his own which is important to setting a great mood and environment for making love and being intimate. A man can be very in touch with his womans needs and my husband sure is:) Not all men are the same.
2007-02-18 23:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay is very important. It helps both male and females get sexually started. Your boyfriend can't just jump in the car and expect it go. He has to get in and start it up, put it in drive, step on the gas, then coast off (if you know what i mean). Your boyfriend needs to turn you on before driving you.
2007-02-18 23:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by shakespearestalker87 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men need to learn that foreplay starts when you get up in the morning. He need to assist you in chores, releive you of some work, show love during the day. It's easy, fun, and later on Delicious:)
2007-02-19 00:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh I have the opposite problem. My man gives me so much foreplay that I am wore out before he even cums.
2007-02-18 23:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋