can somebody help me with my thoughts about wanting another baby?

Question

please some suggestions or people who have similar experiences is this normal.
i have 2 daughters a 20 month old and an 8 month old well already i think about wanting another baby am i crazy or something.
yes the 2 i have take up all my time and yes they cost alot but why do i want another baby so strongly to the point were i think about it everyday will the feeling dissappear with time or what.
i even think about the what ifs and what nots all the time i would love another child but would it make life that much harder or would it be better would the urge subside if i did have another or will i have 10 kids befor i relize lol.
i am 24 married with our own home im a stay at home mummy hubby earns good money so no problem there its just this baby issue i am to scared to even disscus it with my family besides(hubby) they thought i was mad having my 2nd when i did which was an accident i was on birth control and breastfeeding.
so what do you all think thanks in advance sorry its long

hi thanks all i dont mean right now i mean get pregnant in like a year or 2 lol

Answer 1

I don't know if you are a Christian, but I feel that I must answer in regard to my faith. The Bible says that children are a heritage from the Lord. The fruit of the womb is His reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. (That is my paraphrase of several verses, but I can give you all of the verses if you email me.) The women of the Bible wouldn't think twice of having another baby because children were such blessings. They did have ways to prevent conception, but the one place in the Bible where it mentions a man doing it, he was struck dead! So many women in Bible times were barren, that news of a pregnancy was wonderful! How far we have come in this culture. Our society looks down on children and I believe it is because they are no longer being brought up in the "nurture and the admonition" of the Lord. Children today are spoiled terrors and nobody wants more of the same. But when a couple has well-trained, loving children, they want more. We have friends with 12, 8, 7 children (and those with 1,2,3,4 of course). When you hang around with people who have trained their children right, you begin to see a hope that you can have children and train them and love them. And it doesn't take a lot of money if you make the right decisions. I have used cloth diapers for 3 years now. I don't know how much money I have saved, but I'll bet you know!

We have just found out that we are expecting our third child. My husband always said he wanted a dozen, but I told him he should have married me when I was 15 instead of 25! He'll have to settle for whatever God will allow me now since I'm gettin' on in years.

Ultimately, it is yours and your husband's decision-not the extended family or friends. Our family thinks it odd, too, but they are not who we answer to. I think that what you are feeling is exactly what God created you to feel. He made our bodies to do what they are doing. He planned it so well that the continual process of giving birth and nursing babies lowers the risk of certain cancers in women.
This is what God wants for us:
Titus 2:4-5 “That they (older women) may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

I would go on to say that if you discuss it with your husband and he does not want any more precious babies right now, then you should honor his wishes. He is the one you have to live with and I have heard of women who refused their husband's desire and he left them because he plainly didn't want any more children. Do not let this be a source of contention in your marriage. Pray and ask the Lord to help you with your desire (either way). He is able.

Answer 2

You sound like me. I have 3 children because I thought this way. I love all my kids but honestly i should have waited longer to have my 3rd. My middle child was only 10 months old when i got pregnant with my 3rd. I felt like I needed another child in my life and my husband and I agreed, and nine months later I had my 3rd son. My children are now 5, 2, and 1. Life is so hectic that i feel like pulling my hair out a lot. The older two are great, they can play by themselves a lot, feed themselves, and were working on potty training my 2 year old now. Having my 3rd son makes life a little more hectic cause now were starting the walking, he will be in diapers for a lot longer, he cant feed himself, and because i spend so much time with him, i feel like my other children are being neglected. In my personal opinion, i would say wait awhile, because soon that 8 month old will be walking around getting into everything and you will spend so much time chasing that one around that the other 2 will suffer. Give it some time, and if you still feel that need for another baby, do it, youre only 24, you have plenty of time to decide to have another. Me im 22, and I'm done!

Answer 3

I think you just like being pregnant and since you had your baby you feel empty. Your youngest is eight months give it some time in between before you decide to have another one. Focus on the two you have for now because some people cant have one be thankful that you do have kids. There is no need of rushing enjoy them watch them grow and later on down the line if you want another baby have it then not now its to soon.

Answer 4

First of all, you need to dig deep within yourself and ask why do you want this baby. With the exception of your husband, who cares what anyone says or thinks! Because at the end, it is YOU who will carry this baby for 9 months. Then it will be you and your husband who raise your children (of course).

Now, putting that aside, lets be rational. You're in what most consider an *ideal* situation; you're young, you're married, you have a home, you're able to raise this baby yourself and you're in a "comfortable" financial situation. Why do you have to discuss this with your family? It's your husband you need to discuss and talk to this about.

Lastly on to you. Back to the question at hand. Why do you want this baby? Is it just baby lust? Did you always want a big family? Do you think you will be able to handle the demands and needs of children and husband simultaneously? Also keep in mind that your children will be going through different stages. While you will be potty training one child, you might be going through night feedings with a brand new baby and terrible twos with another.

Good luck and if it's not now maybe later! :)

Answer 5

Write out the things that would be good and the things that would be difficult and then decide if the timing is right. At 24 you could wait until your older ones are more manageable or have children close together. You probably are the only one that knows what is best for you and your family.

How blessed you are with your two daughter - enjoy them. I'm sure you will be blessed if you decide to have another.

Do not listen to anyone elses opinion other then your husbands and your own inner voice - you will know the right thing

Answer 6

Wow are you totally crazy! just kidding i have a 1 year old girl and am desperate to have number two. which shocks me cuz after my first i said never again. but i think alot of people do that.
Talk to your hubby if you want another, go for it. 3 children is not alot. Just keep in mind the more children you have the less time you get with each one. 10 is prob too many. My dad came from a family of 9 and he is normal but alot of his siblings have problems and i think it cuz they never had enough attension from there parents.

Answer 7

Give your body time since your youngest is only 8 months old. It is best to wait at least a year between pregnancies. We waited 3 and then had twins so remember multiples are always possible. You are young enough to wait and if you decide you must have another one, discuss it with your husband. Good luck whatever you decide.

Answer 8

Just remember it another life you making.. i think big family is fun.. but you to your kids about having another baby and your hubby.. i think you wanted big family... I do not think you crazy.. but i think you should wait for sometime because having two underage of 5 is a lot to do.. and they so close in age too... maybe wait to your second child is older.. or maybe wait year or too.. until you lost your preg weight...

Remember in the old days there people who have 10 kids.. and it was hard and now people have one kids... which is like spoiled brat because of one kid.... but it up to you and your husband to make third child.. but now.. right after you just had 8 month ago...

you should not be scary to dissuss with your family.. You should talk to your husband.. about it.. he the one sleep with you...(hehe) and he not one who going to give you baby.. Everything is up to you and husband to think of when to have your next child.. do not forget this year is the Pig year(sorry today is chinese new year..) or you can always have Rat year.. ... but that up to you.. Just remember your kids is not be spoiled by anyone.. be strict with them..and teach them how to be good outside and take them not to ran around in a store anyway outside...
Just remember it more to handle.. and that your husband can sometime act like kid sometime.. if he has two right now...

sorry this long

Answer 9

I'm 14 years old, my brother is 11 years old, and my sister is 2 years and 3 months. My Mom also wants another baby, but her boyfriend didn't want one to begin with. (Three different kids with three didfferent fathers.) She wants to have a planed child, and wants to marry my sisters dad. he doesn't want to get married, but is warming up to the idea of another kid. No, you're not crazy. You just have a lot of love to gice.

Good luck,

Kassie

Answer 10

Your body needs some time to heal before you have a 3rd child. Wait until your youngest is at least a year old before trying again.