My girlfriend and broke up about 4 months ago.We dated for 1 1/2 yrs and at the end of the relationship, she said she wasn't ready to be in a serious relationship. We kept in contact for the first 2 months but I told her that I couldn't do it because part of me still loved her and now we haven't spoken in 2 months.I think about her everyday and wonder what's going on in her life. It was my idea not to talk but I can't stop thinking about her. When we broke up she told me that there was no one in her life and she just needed a break and figure out things in her life. Part of me wants to pick up the phone and call her but then I wouldn't even know what to say.Also, I think that if we started talking again, all the feelings for her will come back. I'm looking for opinions and also ways to deal with the situation.I'd love to hear from people in the same situation and also ways of dealing with it. Her birthday is coming up and I thought sending a card would be a good icebreaker. thoughts?
2007-02-18 14:42:44 · 9 answers · asked by Browns 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, send her the card. It sounds like you really care for this girl. If you do and you were good together, DON'T LET HER GO!!!
2007-02-18 14:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by rudee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A card is a very good idea. Just make sure it's sincere and not too mushy. If you guys are funny a humor card might be best. Try not to pour too much into it. Maybe. Happy Birthday, just thinking of you. Hope all is well. drop me a line. That way it doesn't open you up too much. If she is with someone and the someone reads it they won't think you are trying to steal her back. but it'd be enough for her to know you still care. However, you may also be in for a surprise~ if you did happen to run into her your feelings may be totally different. Believe me I know. I was with a guy who I wanted to spend forever with. He wasn't ready and I was scared if I waited too long I would have wasted my prime years. We were together 2 years (lived together 1 1/2 yrs.) and when I saw him like 6 months later I wondered what I ever saw in him.
Time moves us on~ even if we don't see it. Good Luck.!
2007-02-18 14:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by mightyquinn317 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the feelings that you need to be concerned about are yours. You send her the card, start talking, start dating and you end up together. Okay...so what happens in another year and half if she's still singing the same tune? You are going to be injured all over again. I don't think that the card is necessarily a bad idea but be cautious with your heart. Let her know you are thinking about her and leave it at that. At that point, let her steer the communication. Let her decide if she wants to be in your life. Let her decide if she wants to commit. It is only at that time that you need to decide if she is willing to give you the type of commitment that you want.
2007-02-18 15:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by ACCOUNT CLOSED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop torturing yourself. Either this girl is playing games with you or she's trying to avoid being brutally honest. I would bet on the latter considering she hasn't felt the urge to contact you in two months (the phone works both ways, you know). When you're wrestling with a monster, the best way to deal with it is to stop feeding it so I would advise you to move on with your life. Take some classes or volunteer somewhere. It sounds like you have too much time to think and over-analyze. This would also help you meet other people.
2007-02-18 14:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advise is to move on with your life.
If she REALLY cared about you she would not need a 'break'...she would be ready for a serious relationship...period.
Sure, send her a card if you wish...just as a friend.
Spend your time on someone who will really appreciate you & want a future with you. You Have to think more of yourself than wanting to get someone back that needed to 'take a break' from being with you.
She's just "not that into you".
2007-02-18 14:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by JettaDriver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. The past is the past. Leave it there. Send no cards, type no text, do not call. You broke up for a reason and you dont want your heart broken again do you? Find a great chic to have fun with and forget the past. Seriously.
2007-02-18 14:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by kelstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send her a birthday card. See what happens. However, when a girl says she needs space, that's code for "I don't think I like you as much as you like me." Sorry to break that to you. BUT, I don't know your situation, so send the card and let the ball be in her court.
2007-02-18 14:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by JLB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the feelings will probably come back... especially if they never really left. every time i saw my ex, they did. even still. do what feels right in your heart. if she just needed time, now may be good. 2 months is good to clear ones head. have you talked to any of her friends? maybe mutual friends could give insight. find out if she has dated anyone else. that could make it easier
good luck
2007-02-18 14:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by biz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up on her, dude! You're about to become a stalker and will end up in prison. Send her a card, but don't try to make more of it. She will contact you if she wants to. Don't get your hopes up. Move on.
Good luck.
2007-02-18 14:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋