My friend has met a girl over the internet. They have had webcam conversations and have talked over the phone. I have learned that internet relationships are all wrong, and that one of them is usually lying or something.
Should I be worried? Should I tell him something?
2007-02-18 14:38:23 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh he's 14, 15 soon, if that makes any difference.
2007-02-18 14:44:04 · update #1
ye tell him to stay away from internet friends. The only reason people do that is cause they have some other issue so he should be careful.
2007-02-18 14:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Internet relationships can actually work out very well for both people involved. They're not "all wrong", and it's not necessarily the case that one of them is usually lying. Often enough it's perfectly honest. Sometimes people find true love online, and sometimes internet relationships are just like in-person relationships -- they start off well, last a little while, and then end.
But because of the anonymity offered by the internet, it's certainly wise to approach such things with caution. I don't think you need to worry just yet -- it could be a truly good relationship. If your friend mentions meeting this girl in person, I would advise that he do so in a public place, all the typical safety precautions.
For now, just let him be if it makes him happy.
2007-02-18 14:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your concern. I had an internet relationship that turned into a long distance off-line relationship (lasted for 18 months). They can work. I guess it really depends on how old each peson is. If this person is classed as a minor (as I was at the time - 15) then it could be cause for concern for various reasons. If they are classed as an adult (18+) then you still have cause for concern ... fear of lies, being let down, being used etc. Talk to your friend about your concerns. I'm sure they'd be happy to know that you've got their back if things don't turn out.
Also, if they are under 18 it's a good idea to let their parents/guardians/other adult know ... and they should never go without an adult to meet this person.
2007-02-18 14:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Lorna S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a relationship for three years with someone that I met online. I also had a very terrible scary experience with someone off the internet. So I'd say that you shouldn't necessarily discourage your friend from talking to people online, rather encourage him to excersize extreme caution. He is a little bit young to be going to meet people from the internet in person, but if he does decide to do that make sure he doesn't go alone, and goes someone where there are a lot of people. Remind him that sexual preditors are out there, and look out for him. If he is doing something you don't think is safe...tell and adult.
2007-02-26 06:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by LoveBats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships started online can, and do, work out quite often. Whether they are both being honest or not, it's not really any of your business. I'm sure your friend knows about the risks associated with the relationship. Bringing them up would only serve to make him insecure or even write off your concern as jealousy.
Unless you have knowledge that this woman is hiding something major that could end up hurting your friend (a marriage, criminal connections, etc.) then I advise you to let them be. In short, just treat it like a girlfriend in "real life."
2007-02-18 14:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by answerator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if he is 18 or older. If under 18 tell his parents. Otherwise stay out of it. Not all internet relationships are bad, just most. Internet relationships usually consist of needy people who fall victim to the first person who shows interest. No telling how old or young one is. If they occur through blogs there is a better chance that things are on the square.
2007-02-18 14:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wether over the Internet or in person people still lie, people still do wrong it only depends on the person. I can go out tonight meet someone and make me sound like the best person ever but really I'm everything but that. You need trust and hey if he likes her let him be wether in person or on the net if some thing is going to happen its going to happen any where any time.
2007-02-18 14:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know all Internet relationships are wrong? Isn't that being a little judgmental? If you have had a bad relationship it doesn't mean your friend will. Leave him be, people should be allowed to make their own mistakes.
2007-02-18 14:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say be very careful who you pick up on the internet. 1. could be a rapist.2. childs molester.3.a killers 4. kidsnapper. 5.burglars. 6. pornographic idiots.7.pimps.8.psycho.9.serial killers 10. A Police officers,F.B.I. AND ENTRAPMENT.
2007-02-18 14:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by riccibigm47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! be very worried. Most people to that to rape them, or kidnap them. if i were you talk to your friend and tell him/her that it is very dangerous. Even though i do this and i am aware of it, they shouldn't talk to strangers. i know its how you make friends but still. its better to meet someone in person then over the Internet. And since i have said this don't tell your friend that he/she should go see that girl. you still might never know if she does the wrong stuff to people. She might be a girl Michael Jackson OK? so just talk to your friend tell him how dangerous it is. if he doesn't tell his parents and tell them how your worried and how its dangerous. Best of Luck.
2007-02-18 14:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋