I'm 17 years old. I've been dating this guy for about 6 months. Should I have sex with him? Situations have come up. But, is that completley irresponsible and stupid? I'm on the pill (for painful periods). Should we still use a condom? But, if he forgets one, and already starts, should it matter? Help. Advice? What are the consequences? What happens? What could happen?
2007-02-18 14:34:59 · 12 answers · asked by ls_rgs 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
If I were you, I would wait. Just because you've been dating a guy for 6 months, doesn't mean you need to have sex with him. It should be saved for THE special guy. Even if you're on the pill, you should still use a condom. If he's not a virgin, then having sex with him will be like having sex with him and all the other girls he'd had sex with. Pretty gross once you think about it. Nevertheless, the pill is very effective, but it's not 100% If you've taken the pill a day late, if you've had antibiotics during this pill pack, then the pill will be less effective. Getting pregnant at 17 is probably not something that you want to risk.
2007-02-18 15:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by ladydi_1987 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
6 months is not a very long time even though it might seem like it at 17. Only you can decide if he is the one you want to give your virginity to and if you are really ready. If you are not ready which I don't think you are ready if you are asking if you should, you will end up regretting going through with this. But if you do even though you are on the pill you should absolutely use a condom, if he forgets one one you tell him to bad he has to have it. The birth control pill is not 100% effective so it is extra protection for pregnancy. It is also protection for sexually transmitted diseases. So be sure and be careful a lot of things could happen.
2007-02-18 14:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should definitely use a condom. Once you start using them, it's pretty hard to forget. Even though you're on the pill, think about all the consequences of this action, and if you'll regret it EVER in the future. You're awfully young, and should put some good thought into this. And my last piece of advice is talk to HIM about it. Tell him your concerns and worries. If he can't respect a possible decision to hold off, you REALLY shouldn't be having sex with him.
Ultimately, it's up to YOU, not him.
2007-02-18 14:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by T C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm going to give it to you straight. Most girls who have sex at a young age regret it. I know, I am one of them. I had sex when I was 15 with a guy I had been dating for a few months. The next day at school, everyone knew. Now hopefully the guy you are seeing cares more about you then bragging to his friends... but guys tend to get cocky after they lose there virginity (or take a girl's virginity).
If you decide to have sex with him, definitely make him wear a condom. Ask him if he has one before it gets too far. If he doesn't, thats a deal breaker. You don't want to risk getting an STD or becoming pregnant, both will haunt you the rest of your life.
Listen to your head. Not your heart.
2007-02-18 15:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a very personal decision - you need to follow your instincts and conscience. But I always believe it's better to wait until you're older. I say that because of the emotions involved with having sex are complex. It changes how you perceive yourself and your partner. It's difficult to explain, but if you're unsure AT ALL - wait. If you're asking a forum of strangers, I suspect you're VERY unsure - so definitely wait!
I know when I was a teenager, I thought I was in love and almost had sex with my boyfriend. Looking back (25 years later), I am so glad I waited until I was older, wiser and could understand how much better sex is with someone who I really loved and loved me in return. It's too easy for very normal feelings of lust to interfere and confuse the brain to thinking it's love.
When you are ready, I'd recommend a condom to protect against sexually transmitted diseases. If you or the guy don't have one - don't even start having intercourse. There is pre-ejaculate that can still carry disease. A condom isn't 100% protection, but it's better than nothing.
Good luck and follow your heart!
2007-02-18 14:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by Beni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make that decision. I would say go for it ONLY if you both think it is the right decision and you all are able to deal with the consequences if they should happen (i.e. pregnancy, STDs, etc). If you decide to have sex, he should still use a condom!!!!! If he forgets and already starts, make him stop and put one on!!!!
2007-02-18 14:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by Carys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What could happen? You could get pregnant, obviously. The only way to not get pregnant is to refrain from having sex. If you have to ask an online forum whether or not you should have sex, you probably shouldn't. Don't let him pressure you. If you do decide to have sex, then yes, still use a condom.
2007-02-18 14:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please, please, PLEASE, for the love of all that is holy, wait. 6 months isn't anything compared to how long a lifetime is. You're young. There are so many better things you can do with your time. What if this guy dumps you, after having given a big part of yourself to him? Please, wait until you're both truly committed.
However, if you're going to go through with it, WEAR A CONDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You can NEVER NEVER NEVER be too safe about pregnancy and STD's. If he's "forgotten" one, then he doesn't care about you and he's stupid.
If either of you forget condoms, DO NOT HAVE SEX!
2007-02-18 15:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by tahirih.luvs2sew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could end up with an STD, even if he reassures you he is free from viruses doesnt mean he isnt, he may not know he has one
it aint worth the risk,
make sure u have some handy
2007-02-18 14:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by mel_leno 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you really should wait. Several times my bf (now fiancee) have talked about it, and we are glad that we are waiting now since we are getting married! :D
Please wait, your yours and his sake, you could get pregnant and you shouldn't even think about having sex til you are married.
So please don't do it. Respect yourself and wait, you won't regret it. ;)
2007-02-18 14:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋