i had my son 5 weeks ago.. I know its ok to have sex again after 6 weeks but i am kinda scared. first because i know i dont want to get pregnant any time soon and with being so busy with my son i have forgotten to take my birth control pill. second i got stiches ( they cut me and i ripped) and im scared that it will be very pain full... and now it seems extra senstive down there...
2007-02-18 14:20:29 · 19 answers · asked by missmeliss 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
We waited until my daughter was 10 weeks old, for various reasons. I hadn't stopped bleeding at 6 weeks, for one, and I had some other physical issues going on...
Anyway, I can't say that it was the best sex I've ever had, but it didn't hurt. Those first couple times were for him, if you know what I mean. After that, I started to enjoy it again.
Use a lot of lube - and get the good stuff. I like Astroglide, personally. Especially if you're breastfeeding, because the hormones that you're producing while breastfeeding will dry you out. Try to relax, and tell your husband to go slow. If it hurts, stop, and try again later. I'm sure that having seen what you went through, he'll be patient and gentle.
Don't worry - it's not as bad as you think it'll be. After all, your husband's not nearly as big as that baby was, right? :) Anxiety will make it harder. Have a couple glasses of wine, relax, and take your time. You'll get your groove back.
2007-02-18 14:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had stitches as well it will be somewhat uncomfortable the first time. Nothing to be afraid of. Just go slow. Let your husband know if it is more than you can handle. Just wait until you see your doctor for your 6 week check up before you do. He will tell you then if it is ok or not. As far as your birth control is concerned you should use other forms of protection if you haven't been taking your pills regularly (even if you missed just one). I know that first hand. I got pregnant when my daughter was 3 months old. I ended up having 2 girls 1 year and 3 days apart.
2007-02-18 14:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by gasnshngrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you gone back to the Dr for your checkup after the birth? Before you start having sex you need to get your checkup and make sure everything is ok.....as far as the episiotomy, it is tender for a while and it might sting the first time but it is not that painful, or you may not notice it at all...just make sure you get the ok by your Dr. before putting anything inside of you...tampons, having sex etc If you do not want to get pregnant again either start taking the pill or use a condom! After having a baby you are very fertile....Good Luck!
2007-02-18 14:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa ♥'s Tim 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will be tender down there. Make sure your man takes it slow and lots of lubrication. I had an episiodomy also and it was sore for a while after as I said take it slow. Now for birth control. I would probably wait until you are back on your birth control because using a condom will hurt more. Unfortunately you wouldnt be the first person to go to your post partum visit already pregnant. Good luck.
2007-02-18 14:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I had sex after the 3rd week after giving birth. I was in your same position. I ripped and got stitched up. My guess is that by now, your stitched have melted away. I would have your partner take a look. I was sensitive after wards but I told my husband to be careful and to be gentle. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. If you are missing your birth control pills you can always use condoms. Personally, I chose to get the IUD because I know that I couldn't keep up with the pills.
2007-02-18 14:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by arwin_aragorn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have sex as soon as you have stopped bleeding and are no longer sensitive. It does take time to heal and if you are not physically comfortable, wait. There is no need to push yourself. Just be honest with your partner as you may still be a bit tender the first couple of times. Make sure he understands he has to be gentle.
As for not getting pregnant, condoms are your best bet if you have not been taking the pill.
2007-02-18 14:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,Just go slow. Make sure you are physically ready and emotionally. Six weeks is just the magic number that Dr's give for the safety of a women but each women is different. If you hand your mate go slow and make it a team thing you will come around (no pun intended). You might want to try to use a lubricated condom for awhile it will help make it a little easier. Good luck and Congrats on the baby!!
2007-02-18 14:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont have sex until your stiches are healed!!! it will hurt a lot worse if you don't!!!! i tore as well and it was great after i was healed and had sex again!!! just take your time....and if you are worried about being prego again....TAKE THAT PILL!!!! you may be busy but if you aren't ready to be prego again find the time to take the pill!!!!!
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2016-10-15 23:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give yourself a little extra time for your body to heal. That will also give you time to get back into the routine of taking the "pill".
2007-02-18 14:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by belliott_777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋