Question from the other woman!!!?

Question

How many of you know that your spouse is seeing someone else? How many of you don't care?

Ok, If you read my other answers you will see that I am in a open marriage. I just hear from the married men that I see that their wives wouldn't care as long as they didn't have to have sex. Why are so many men unhappy with their sex lives? I will even answer that. It is because they are married to stuck up prudes like SOME of the ones who answer questions on here.

Answer 1

Whoa! Some of you people really need to put down the pitchforks and torches and take a Xanax. Y'all are acting like the village mobs from the Frankenstein movies.

Why do you have to look down on people in open marriages/relationships? Does it make your own pathetic little lives feel bigger and better? Calling people whores and calling for a$$-whuppings and wishing for injury and pain is wrong!

Here's another little tidbit for you to think about: if your put a tenth of the energy you use to condemn people into keeping your husbands happy, then maybe those husbands wouldn't go shopping outside the marriage for happiness and satisfaction. Because if he was happy with you, then he wouldn't be looking elsewhere, would he?

So put down the bon-bon, turn off the soap-operas and quit being such miserable, sniveling, useless bags of bitching, whining slobs. Maybe your husbands will decide to stay home with you.

Answer 2

My husband and I have batted around "playing" with our mutual friends. They're all married, too. He just doesn't want me around his men friends. I don't think we could ever do that and look at our friends the same way. Five of us in our group have jealous streaks and two of us have kids. It would hurt our whole group if any of us ever did anything with each other. We've been friends for so long. It's okay to think about every once in awhile just to joke when we're all partying together. I don't think anyone would really go too far. But there have been a couple of instances that where quite exciting. The good old days and fond memories. :) It would hurt the children and our familys.

Answer 3

Well...... OK. I am not married. But I've had a few boyfriends and I was possessive with them. I'm sure if he was loyal enough with me before we married, he would definitely be loyal with me through the marriage, so my husband wouldn't even be the one fooling around with you. So, we wouldn't even need to worry about it. Secondly, if you fooled around with my boyfriend, showing me that lack of respect, you better hope that I never found out about it, because I would kick your little @$$. And I would leave him, then go out and have coffee and icecream with my friends.

Marriage is a sacred agreement between two people and God. This is the height of disrespect. Girls like you need to learn some respect for other women and also for yourselves. Why would you want to be the one always fooling around with someone else's man when you could have your own man? What you do to someone else, will, in time come around and bite you in the @$$ and you will get exactly what you dished out. So have fun- *****!

Answer 4

The problem is people mistake sex for love..just because you have sex with someone does not mean you love them..you have an open marriage..so you should know that better than anyone..really..if your marriage is open..does that mean your husband does not love you..does that mean that you can not sexually satisfy your husband..you may have different morals/values than other people have..open marriage works for you and your husband..not all married people have an open marriage..not all people share your morals and beliefs..if the married men you are seeing..had an open marriage..than I guess their wives would not care..because they would not be being lied to..or ..being kept in the dark..the playing field would be even..not one sided..it would be a mutual agreement between two people that love each other.. respect each other..trust each other..play by the rules of engagment..
the problem with these married men that you are seeing is the fact that they do not have an open marriage..never have had an open marriage..they lie..they decieve..to cover it all up..they keep their wives in the dark about you..because they know..their wives would care about it..there are always two sides too a story..if he is not sexually satisfied..maybe it is because sex is all about him satisfying his own sexual needs..maybe he is self centered..only cares about himself..in the bedroom..not about satisfying the sexual needs of his wife..truth is..whether you are in an open marriage or not..Sex is a two way street..you get one favor in return for another..it is not all about him..all about her..it is all about each other..satisfying the sexual needs of each other..the guys you are seeing..would it be ok with them for their wives to cheat on them and have their sexual needs satsified by another man??

Answer 5

Did you ask this question so you could get a backup for when your current situation with a married guy doesn't work out? It's a lonely existence to always be on the outside of someone else's marriage. You are the one who loses on all of the major milestones of his life -- he shares that with his real family. If he badmouths the wife to you, you've got to know if she knows about you as an "open relationship" implies, you can be sure he doesn't speak highly of you to her. No matter what he says, if he'd rather be with you ... then he would be.

Answer 6

Mine wouldn't dare. I'd kill him.

... And if the "other woman" knew, I'd kill her, too.

I consider an affair a husband's excuse to defile his wedding vows, and any woman to mess with a married man being of LOW character.

Find a single man before some married woman whips your azz for screwing around with her husband. I don't care if he wanted it or not. YOU should a) have enough self-respect to go after someone who's not married, and b) should know that marriage vows are sacred.

Don't be a damn homewrecker.

*EDIT*

Oh, and not wanting to share my husband doesn't make me a prude. I don't want him bringing home a nasty disease from some filthy whore, and then giving it to me when I am a one-man gal. If you think that holding up your end of the marriage vows is being prude, there's nothing that anyone on here can say to help you.

Answer 7

If your spouse is c heating and you don't care then why be married? That is just messed up. All my spouse needs to do is tell me and I will leave. What's the point in being married if you have to go outside of the marriage.

Answer 8

I know my husband is not seeing someone else and by the way if he was I would care and i would find out who it was and why. If he did not want me and the marriage and would rather be with her then i would let him go. However if he wanted me and the marriage then i would fight for him and my marriage and work it out.

Answer 9

I think people that knowing enter a relationship with someone who is already involved with someone else should all get together and drink bleach. How could you honestly live with yourself and expect anyone to take you seriously let alone trust you if you treat yourselves like a back up plaything to be used at the convenience of another person.. Its sad really, but I guess its your choice to make.

Answer 10

I believe whole heartedly in the laws or reaping and sowing. If you sow bad seeds you will reap bad fruit.

Life would be simple if you would do unto others as you would have them do unto you, as the "Good Book" says.

I know that my husband has someone else and I do care. I have to stay focused on the big picture. "Two wrongs don't make it right". Your lover, you and my husband will get what's coming to you in the end.