How do you stop abusive people from making your life miserable if you can't always avoid them?

Answer 1

Don't let them make life miser-able! Tell 'em 2 take a hike! Tell 'em 2 Stik their gripes where the sun don't shine! Ignore, don't answer.

Answer 2

You find a new language, or you create a new language that works for you, such that "abusive people" is replaced by a term, or terms, or other distinctions, that give you access to communication with people rather than being turned off or afraid of people.

You also find a new language for the feeling of being miserable. "MISERABLE" is a concept. You cant touch it or hold it and it has no location for you. Transform your concept "making your life miserable" into something that opens communication between you and the rest of the world such that you get present to making a difference, rather than a responsibility to avoid.

Answer 3

Soetimes it's hard to just ignore it. It depends on the situation. I deal with a lot of crap from my daughter's dad but will not take disrespect... especially in front of my daughter although some would argue just to keep quiet, I don't want her thinking that it's okay for a man (boy) to traeta a woman that way or any person that way period. I think you may also want to change your phone number or use your caller id very well. I answer the question with " If I had a phone number I wanted you to contact me on I'd give it to you. This way all I get is e mails and I choose when to call and answer them. No more stress in the middle of my day because my daughter refused to put her shoes on at a visit or he wanted to talk about how my bottom looked in my jeans the other day. You just have to take control of the situation and don't allow people to have control of you.They do when you allow anger to get the best of you.

Answer 4

I found an interesting way of dealing with verbal bullies|

It is called "reframing."

What you do with reframing is that you take the abusive or insulting statement that was made against you and then you put it in another context that makes *them* look like the idiot|


To give you an example|


One verbal bully that was living in my house started to ask me a question in baby talk - implying that that is the way that I am to be spoken to|

What I did then was burst out laughing - "Whatttt!!!" I said|

Then the guy starts to look all embarrassed and he does his best to save face|

As he is slinking away I say: "Where did that come from?" - just to drive the nail the the coffin|


In 1992 that adult bully moved into the rooming house that I was in|

His was a razor wit who thought he could make minced meat out of me|

Instead of meeting wit with wit, which is what I could not do, I simply resorted to reframing everything he did against me, and when he thought that he would get me, I ended up totally humiliating *him|*


Very quickly he moved out|




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Answer 5

learn the complicated art of ignoring them. I mean if you are talking verbal abuse, learn to ignore the people. Although it is not entirely true that words can't hurt you because they can but you can choose to let it bother you or you can learn to ignore the comments. If you are talking physical abuse than you do need to get out but just verbal, learn to ignore them because eventually it will no longer serve the purpose if the words are not affecting you or at least you don't show that they are, then the verbal abuse will stop

Answer 6

Realize that your identity, your worth, your capabilities and talents, are completely unaffected by other peoples opinions of you.
Not everyone will like you, and its impossible to like everyone. Just be civil and accept that some people are just not compatible with your personality. Its no skin off your nose.
Develop your own talents, get active in doing community service or take classes for something you've always been interested in, and spend time with good friends who affirm you and accept you. Another person's behavior is not your responsibility, but how you respond to it is. Take this and make yourself better for it.

Answer 7

Your question is too vague. Are these people your parents? Report them and you will be moved to a foster home, or move out. Are they your coworkers? Tell your supervisor or look for another job. Are you talking about physical abuse? Learn self defense and offensive moves. Emotional abuse? Try to ignore it or do it back, with the awareness that returning fire for fire will escalate the situation.

Answer 8

Caution them that you will press charges ... then do it. By saying nothing or ignoring it you are allowing it to continue.

If i went into your wallet and took $20 and you said nothing i would certainly be back for more.

For these people they dont know when to stop or they dont know you're serious unless something more serious happens to them. Press slander charges or assault charges. It may seem harsh but didnt you want to stop abusive people from making your life miserable.

Answer 9

Prove something to them...basically...

Stand up for yourself...cuss them out..just do what you gotta do..

If you have been ignoring them and they are still abusive, apparently you gotta fight fire with fire, sometimes thats how things work..

Dont you know that if you dont stand for something people will start thinking that you are weak and will run roughshed over you...

Its either that, or beat their a.s.s....although I dont think the latter is the most productive.

Good Luck my dear!!

Answer 10

Make them avoid you. If they think it sucks to be around you, they won't be around you. I had this problem and I tried to avoid them and couldn't do it. Finally I just stopped avoiding them but became so boring/blunt/to the point/rude/nonchalant that they didn't want to be around me.