A colleague, who was also a good friend,wrote me a long letter regarding things I have done that were not supportive of her. Im trying to decide how to reply and if anyone has suggestions that would be great. She has brought up things that have happened over a year ago where I have not supported her in her actions and been somehow mistrusting of her. The thing is I have been supportive of her over the past 2 years. I have listened to her, encouraged her, reasoned with her over a lot of things that were going on. Lately though I have not been because of the way she has been treating me and other coworkers. She has been rude, disrespectful, and barely says hello. I was so disgusted in her behavior that I did not want to sit down and listen to her.Now she has written this letter and I don't know how to respond. It doesn't ask anything of me, just states her feelings. I don't expect or want to become best friends nor hash out each individual issue. Any suggestions on how I should respond?
2007-02-18 13:40:53 · 3 answers · asked by Dude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You say you were disgusted by her "rude, disrespectful" behavior, but did you ever wonder if maybe she was acting that way in response to your own behavior? It sounds like she wants to clear things up and make them right, regardless of how she acted before. I don't think you should hold her accountable for how she acted towards you when she was upset with you because she's trying to make things right. Maybe you could mention how you felt hurt that she ignored you instead of talking to you earlier about her problem. I think you should tell her the truth. Let her know that you prefer not to discuss all the issues because you don't want to be close friends. You say she was a good friend. Did you change your mind because of how she acted? I personally think you should give her a chance and try to work things out. Give her the benefit of the doubt about her actions; you were probably both misjudging each other.
2007-02-18 13:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you have answered your own question!!!
The thing is I have been supportive of her over the past 2 years. I have listened to her, encouraged her, reasoned with her over a lot of things that were going on. Lately though I have not been because of the way she has been treating me and other coworkers. She has been rude, disrespectful, and barely says hello. I was so disgusted in her behavior that I did not want to sit down and listen to her.
2007-02-18 21:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by prop4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think taking the letter to your boss
let them take care of it
2007-02-18 21:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋