Do I just leave my son in his crib till' he crys himself to sleep?

Answer 1

I agree with those who say not to leave him to cry. As a School Psychologist who has taught college-level Child Development classes, I do not believe this is the way to raise a child so that he will be loved, feel cherished, and learn to trust that those around him will meet his needs. Sure, there are other professionals who will tell you otherwise, but Dr. Ferber himself (who originally wrote the book about letting babies cry it out) recently admitted that his method was designed only for parents of children with sleep disorders, not as an everyday solution for normal parents.

Here is some information from Dr. Sears about this subject:

“Science tells us that when babies cry alone and unattended, they experience panic and anxiety. Their bodies and brains are flooded with adrenaline and cortisol stress hormones. Science has also found that when developing brain tissue is exposed to these hormones for prolonged periods these nerves won’t form connections to other nerves and will degenerate.”

“One study (at Harvard) showed infants who experienced persistent crying episodes were 10 times more likely to have ADHD as a child, along with poor school performance and antisocial behavior. The researchers concluded these findings may be due to the lack of responsive attitude of the parents toward their babies.”

There are many different parenting styles out there to choose from. Down the road, would you feel worse if you met his needs, or caused him to have trust issues as an adult? You can never love a baby too much. Just isn't possible... :)

Answer 2

Usually when a baby cries there is a reason. you should include more info as to the age of the child and also if he is sick and so forth. I have read that up to a year you cannot spoil a child when you respond to his crying. but after 6 or 7 months it is ok to let him cry a little to get himself back to sleep. I did this only when i noticed he would awaken and not really be hungry. in a couple of days he was sleeping thru the night. but every child is different and no one knows him better than his parents

Answer 3

I use the ten minute rule, I put mine down after he is changed, fed, burped, and clean. if he starts crying right off the bat, I give him ten minutes, then go and check, but I don't take him out, otherwise it becomes a game. You know that your child is safe in his crib. Just make sure that there are no fevers or anything. Give it a couple nights, and resist the temptation to pick him up, to keep him quiet.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

NO. Your son is small and helpless and even if he is dry, fed, warm and clean he may still need YOU. Imagine how you would feel if you were scared and alone - crying out for your husband/wife and they didn't come to you? Would you feel respected, cherished, loved? Or would you begin to lose trust in the person you expect to be there for you? Sure, sleep training does break the spirit of some babies and they become "good sleepers" but a broken spirit is a big price to pay for parental convenience.

Check out works by Elizabeth Pantly - The No Cry Sleep Solution and Dr. William Sears.

Answer 6

Many parents do that-

We personally choose NOT to do that.

It's not healthy for the baby...he will develope trust issues. We know that there is no such thing as spoiling a baby.

Try different methods- rocking, singing and actually getting him to sleep before you put him in his crib or floor bed.

When you think of what cribs look like...if you were inside of it, you would cry too!

This is a great resource for you from Micheal Olaf- A true Montessorian and advocate for chilren. He offers some great insight, tips and products.
http://www.michaelolaf.com/JCcontents.html

Answer 7

I didn't choose to let my babies CIO. I figured that they had needs 'round the clock; just because the sun went down didn't mean those needs were suddenly somehow less valid.

Answer 8

NO! If your son is crying he needs something! He might need to be fed, changed, whatever, or he might simply need YOU! Babies should not be ignored in their cribs!

Answer 9

As long as you have covered all the basics, and he hasn't hurt himself. I would go in at 10 minute intervals to soothe him, until he falls asleep. Make sure he's dry, warm, fed. If they're over tired they will cry more. Also depends on their age, if they are younger than 6 months, I would personally not let them cry it out yet. If older than 6 months, you can start with the sleep training. First wait 5 min, then 10 min then 15 min and so on before going in. Just pat them or rub their backs/tummies until they are calm, tell them it's time for a big sleep and you will see them in the morning. They will fall asleep eventually. Don't spend more than 2-3 minutes in there, and just walk out. Good Luck.

Answer 10

I could not, if my daughter cried for more than five minutes I HAD to comfort her, Yeah too soft I know!