Holding in Emotions!!?

Question

I'm a 17 year old, and I have had alot of things happen that are pretty close together and I don't tell people my problems because i don't want others to have to deal with something that doesn't have to deal with them. But every now and then it reaches a boiling point and all I do is hurt someone important in the process like yelling or just getting really angry easy. I'm not sure what to do, should I keep it held in or bring others into my problems? Even tho I have no one really to tell that cares.

What makes it harder is that my gf just broke up with me, and my best friend is one of the reasons it happened. So I pretty much lost both of there help, I use to tell them my problems.

Answer 1

Holding your emotions in is counter-productive. After time it creates more problems for you, and for people who do care about you. You have to learn how to communicate your problems. Have you ever tried writing? I'm not talking about becoming a poet or anything, but when I was a teenager it helped so much to keep a notebook that I would just write in when I was upset, angry or just bored even. Get a small one that you can keep in a private place and don't even think, just when you're upset, write everything that comes into your head down on paper. If you try this you'll find that it's really easy to let it all out that way, even now as a married mother of two it still helps when I'm stressed or upset. I wish you all the luck and hope things work out for you. You seem like an intelligent guy, and I'm sure you'll find someone who deserves you.

Answer 2

There are people called "best friends". This person (and only 1 person) should know your problems. My best friend happens to be my boyfriend. I can tell him everything and all my problems. He understands most of it, and what he doesnt, he supports. This person could be your dad, a good friend, a significant other, or a random person you meet online, or a shrink. whatever helps you. But, by doing this, only 1 person will know. that one person should care for you and understand this and that you just need to vent sometimes. Maybe, if you know the person, go out for coffee 1 time a week.

If you cannot find anyone that you are completly comfortable sharing your emotions with, write them down. I do this before bed. I write down everything and then I burn them. Or shred them, to signify that they are gone and overwith. My friend, tho, draws down his ideas and then keeps them in a binder and looks back at them to remind how far he has came.

Answer 3

I"m a lot older than you and have been holding my emotions in for years. If you let it out, you get labeled as an emotional wimp and everyone makes fun of you. I'd be afraid that if I told anyone what's really on my mind, they'd use it to blackmail me or something twisted. I just don't trust anyone. You just have to find a way to deal with your own problems. It's like you said, no one else really cares about our problems.

I like cfalways idea of the blank word document. I may try something like that myself.

Answer 4

Tell someone... "Look, I know you could give a rats a.. but, I have to tell someone or I will explode. All I need to do is vent, and I hope you'll keep it confidential, will you?" Then if they say yes... continue. If they say to go beat up a pillow, find someone else. OR You could write it all down. It really does work. A paper journal, digital recorder, or writing in a locked document on your computer works. I hope you feel better.

Answer 5

Don't keep it held in, find a counselor or a teacher at school to talk to if you don't want to get counseling elsewhere. Trust me, keeping everything in can result in bad relationships in the future, whether you see it or not. Get help before you really hurt someone you care about. People care, trust me. I care! or else I wouldn't have responded!

Answer 6

well...(this is only a suggestion) why don't you just write them down? either on paper like in a journal or you can open a blank word document and let your fingers type to keep up with your thoughts. that's what i do. and since my trust factor is something that is hard to come by...i destroy it when i'm done. that way it doesn't sit inside and fester to the point of hurting someone. just open a blank word document and type out what ever is on your mind. when you are done...just delete it. hope this helps

Answer 7

I got news for you...if your more open and talk about it...the easier it gets. You can't keep it in and let it explode...if you talk about it more and often and get it out and in the open..it will never reach a boiling point and you will find peace within yourself to move past it.

Answer 8

Your right to not include everyone. But their are people that care about you. You would be surprised. Talk to you mom or dad..A teacher that you feel comfortable with. Make sure that you don't allow anger to ruin the pleasure of your youth. Talk to someone. I would love to help if you want to asked me.

Answer 9

man that sucks.at least tell your friends cause they can and will help you deal...i know sounds hard but if you can talk about it it will help you get it out of you...you need to release.and it will get better ive had lots of drama and bad stuff happen to me and its made me stronger and i know it seems real tough now but just take it one day at a time.peace and good luck

Answer 10

you must get feeling out, talk to family,friends, a priest a counsel-er, that's what there here for, for you, to help you, to listen to you, to feel your sadness and joy.if you keep all your feeling inside it can make you very ill, and end up depressing you and maybe even-killing yo.you are a special person and deserve to have a happy life.dint hurt yourself-by holding feeling inside you deserve better than that,get out and enjoy your life-before its gone, good luck and god bless you