my girlfriend and i have been together for 2 years..and we talk all the time..recently her parents keep grounding her so we cant talk..and its really causing me pain not to talk to her, its been a week and she got ungrounded TODAY, and she got on to talk to me and they grounded her again...what should i do?...
2007-02-18 12:35:15 · 10 answers · asked by Adam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
her mum said it wasnt me, but i have a feeling it is..Lindsey loves talking to me, as i love talking to her, and it kills both of us when we dont talk for so long...but her parents get upset when shes sad or angry because she cant talk to me...
2007-02-18 12:41:58 · update #1
ive done NOTHING wrong... so i dont know why they are being so harsh and cruel...
2007-02-18 12:50:38 · update #2
Which one is it Adam? Are you single with a girlfriend who lives at home or are you married and jealous of your wife's friends? Or are you just full of it?
2007-02-25 17:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by dogtownbetty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like maybe her parents don't trust you for one reason or another.
Have you given them any reason not to trust you? Or has she done something -against her parents wishes- that involved you? Usually that is when parents step and try to control a situation. If you've known each other or have been going together for two years with no problems then all of a sudden the parents are blocking maybe they think that you two are too serious.
Like I said, maybe they don't trust you because you or your girl have given them a reason not to trust you.
My advice; remain faithful to your girlfriend and respect the boundaries that her parents have set. There is a reason why her parents are keeping the two of you apart and you should try to find out what it is. I am sure that your girlfriend knows but she just hasn't told you.
2007-02-18 20:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U didn't mention why she was grounded. Whatever it is she needs to resolve that. She is also a repeat offender if it keeps happening. If she follows the guidelines that r given to her by her parents and improves the situation, then u 2 may get to see each other. Start with seeing her in her home with her parents home.
Get on their good side. It is in HER hands to improve the situation.
2007-02-26 15:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by choose happiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, they must be thinking u r ar bad influence on her or they must be suspecting that their girl is turning into or has already turned into a lesbian. so, i guess they want to end your friendship with her.
so, talk to ur friend and both of u keep away for a while. i'm sure ur friend knows the reason for being grounded, but is'nt telling you, 'coz she thinks , it might hurt you. give ur friends parents some time and space and wait till all the heat has cooled down. then, both of u talk to her parents and tell them ur true feelings. ask her parents, if they would allow u 2 to continue ur friendship in a way they feel comfortable under their terms. thats the most considerable thing to do. i dont think anything more can be done untill u girls r big enough and can take care of urselves and can make decisions for yourself.
2007-02-26 01:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by jenny 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I get the impression that you are leaving a lot out of your statement. You didn't say that your girlfriends parents are insane, so she is getting punished for something, and if it has nothing to do with you, then what's the deal? What is the nature of her character and is she a good student? Is she telling you everything? Too many mysterious unanswered variables. You don't have to say, but be honest with yourself, and you'll find the answers you're looking for, and that you need.
2007-02-26 12:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter. At least you can 'talk' to her that way. And tell her that you would like her to write back to you. Or e-mail her, if she can be on the Internet. Or Instant Message. There are plenty of ways to talk to somebody and her mother says that the problem isn't you.
If her parents object to the letters or that non-talking communication, then you will know that it IS you.
2007-02-26 08:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a really tough situation, maybe you could go talk to her parents two years is a long time, ask them if it's you. If that doesn't work out maybe you just need a break.
2007-02-18 20:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Madison P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love here that much try talking to her parents about it or talk to her about it
2007-02-18 21:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by John D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is stay away for a while to see what the problem is,you have to respect her parents.Did you do something bad?
2007-02-18 20:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by prettygirl32 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
her parents seem to be orthodox...u shud talk to them...
2007-02-26 05:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by RiGhT.hErE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋