My hubby is 22 years old and everything is about his mother. I love him but it is driving me crazy. Im flying 600 miles away in a few weeks to see my family for the first time in 9 months for about a week. While I am gone his mother suggested him to stay with her. We have our own apartment! Does anyone else think there is anything wrong with this?
2007-02-18 12:14:19 · 18 answers · asked by Kristi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, he's a big boy. If he's old enough to be married, he should be able to spend a week by himself in his own apartment. Seems like he has attachment issues. Talk to him about it and make him see that staying with his mother is foolish.
2007-02-18 12:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you ever talked to him about it? I hope you told him about how you feel about the situation. What matters to you should matter to him, that's how any relationship should be. Anyway, there are really just some families whose ties or bonds are so strong that even after the members have decided to go on with their own lives, they still eventually go back to their families and relive their past. Your hubby's behavior is just like this. His mother just loves him so much that she wants to baby him still. This is not really that bad, but it can at times be very unhealthy especially for the guy,,,, I mean he may eventually might not grow mature, independent and responsible. What's worse is if your hubby would call his mom all the time to ask for advise, when he can ask you instead or rely on his mom on things he should decide on for himself. But face it, won't any mother want her baby to come to her anytime she calls for him/her, you probably would. You probably grew up from a very different family setting, but that doesn't mean you two can't make some kind of compromise. The both of you should be sensitive to the parters concerns and feelings,,,, be more selfless and love each other unconditionally.
God bless!
2007-02-18 12:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by beruto 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To stay happily married you first must NEVER say anything bad about his mom. In fact, I would stay clear of the subject unless he brings it up..then let him do most of the talking. If he wants to stay with mommy while you're gone, what's the harm? You'll be gone.
Please do remember though that you are an adult and you are husband and wife. Only say something or stand up and voice your opinion if it is affecting your marriage.
You also should feel somewhat lucky to have a momma's boy. They generally treat their wives better and teach their children how to love and respect their mom.
2007-02-18 12:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by THP 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't your husband go with you to see your family? It seems you have to put up with his all the time, why can't he go see yours? Doesn't seem fair on you to me. You have had to wait 9 months to see your family, the least he could do is go with you instead of staying whith his mummy! He is only young but he married you and should start putting you first instead of his mummy! I would have a serious talk about this with him if I were you, because it isn't right. YOU have to come first now!! Good Luck with everything hun.
2007-02-18 12:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by saau2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is very young....so even though he should want to stay in your apartment he may think it's a good time to go home and be "babied".
You may have a different relationship with your family then your husband has with his....but that doesn't mean one is right and one is wrong.
Marriage is a lot of give and take....this isn't worth the fight.
2007-02-18 12:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah something is wrong but if you confrony him he may resent you for trying to come between him and his mother so try to learn to like his mother and you may get to see where he is coming from and why they are so close the you can start working on weakening the bond just a little so as not to feel left out of his life
2007-02-18 12:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by Alise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kristi: It IS a quite common problem-amoung the 'Super-Riche' ng Manila, & Cebu..
IF you wish to continue; do NOT get all "Angry-School-teacherish", with him.
He has, simply [always had], elders to make, simply ALL his
decisions..
(Just, go on.. acting as a "little girl'' -and your 'marriage'
will [also] -wobble along). You live in a Land-of-servants..
2007-02-18 12:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to cut the umbilical cord! If not good luck... My ex is an ex 'cause he's a mama's boy.
But he's also only 22. Men usually don't grow up till their early to mid 30's... If they do at all...
Sorry if I sound cynical...
2007-02-18 12:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by liltxrosebud 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just don't let her drive a wedge in your business and your husband should not be telling her any of your business. Well at least if he is staying with her you will know that he isn't fooling around while you are gone. But it is still weird.
2007-02-18 12:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋