I am 13 a pregnant with my first kid and my mother is getting suspicious. The boy (partner) is now trying to get a job and doing his all to support me. I am scared and I don't want a abortion. I am 15 weeks and my teacher knows because she actually gave me the pregnancy test. She was really in my bussiness. Should I tell my mother or get a abortion be4 it's 2 late?
2007-02-18 12:04:54 · 29 answers · asked by Jay W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well, your mother will find it out anyway, so telling it now won't make things worse. Especially because pregnancy in your age has to be well controlled in order not to have any problems. If you don't want to make an abortion, no one can legally make you do this. However you must also realize that having baby in the age of 13 will be really hard and you must still do your best in education. If you decide to have a baby, you will probably be home-schooled for some time. It will make things easier, but afterward you won't be treated better than usually. You will still have to pass all the tests and exams with your one year-old kid at home. Yeah, it won't be so nice, right? I really can't put myself on your place, cuz I'm now 14 and everything I can do in my academy is study, eat, sleep and work out, but I have a friend was pregnant in the age of 13 too and she decided to have a baby. Now she lives her normal life, b'cos she gave her child for the adoption and she sees it every month. That may also be the clue for your problem. But anyway this is only you who can decide what to do.
2007-02-19 01:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to tell your mom. I had my first baby on my 16th birthday! I never told my mom until everyone had already guessed. I started saving so did the dad. My mom was so mad she took herself out of the picture. So i was on my own, which really sucked when the dad left. I gave birth with my best friend's there, no family. If i had told my mom sooner she would of been there.
My daughter and i ended up living in a hotel and i was working there. I did any loose jobs and got a room, and a meal a day. The lady was really nice but if i had told my mom Cloie, my daughter, and i would have had a easier begging.
Your still going to have to get an education and that thing but don't have an abortion. I considered giving my baby up for adoption, actually that was the plan until i held her, i couldn't even think of not being able to see her. When your baby says mommy for the first time, or opens her eyes and focuses on you, your heart will melt and you'll want that baby to be yours, forever.
Do what you think is best, and ask others for their opinion! Maybe talk to that teacher, it would be good to have her help, especially when it comes to needing an education.
Now I'm married with 2 more children.Hopefully another, soon!
Best of luck!
2007-02-19 02:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should get an abortion. I have a friend that got pregnant, (she was date-raped), and she wanted to keep the baby, but her aunt made her get an abortion. do you really think that you could handle a baby right now? Even if you decided to give birth to the baby and give it up for adoption, giving birth is one of the most dangerous things a woman can do. Young women and teenagers are especially at risk to die during labor. Since you're boyfriend is really supportive of you, talk it over with him. See what he wants to do and make the decision together. This boy is a keeper. Don't let him get away. I hope all goes well for you.
2007-02-19 05:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by Camisado Anna 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are so many people out there that cannot have children and would love to give this baby a home. I know you are scared but you will be less scared if you tell your mom. Of course she will be upset...just give her time. She will eventually come to terms with it and both of you can make good decisions. I'm not going to tell you not to abort but I think you should look at all your options first but quickly. Everything will be fine as long as you tell your mother...you cannot do this alone or even with your boyfriend.
2007-02-18 12:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by BCMEDIC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one can make that decision apart from you, but if you want an abortion its getting a little late. Each choice has its consequences you have to weigh up whats best for you. If you feel you can, tell your mum, she'll probably be shocked at first (but you say she's suspicious anyway) but if she's a loving mother she'll support you. We only want the best for our children.
2007-02-18 12:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by shaz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry hunny, but u are past the chance to have an abortion done safely. You should tell your mom and take care of the baby. You were responsible enough to lay down and get pregnant and now u have to be responsible enough to take care of the baby. You are a baby having a baby essentially.
2007-02-19 03:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by spacelee666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her BUT tell her in a nice easy way. whatever you do DONT get an abortion! If your mother dosent want you to keep the baby try to get an adoption. Good Luck!!!
2007-02-18 12:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were to get an abortion, you would need to tell your mother anyway.
Tell your mom, then put the baby up for adoption.
2007-02-18 12:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by amiee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to contact a Teen Advocate group immediately. Check in the phone book under Teens/Pregnancies and start calling the agencies. They will make sure you get medical attention and will go over ALL of your options. Money does NOT have to be an issue. Make sure you make that call Monday and start making some very adult decisions. Good luck and God bless.
2007-02-18 12:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by Stacy C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You really should talk to your mom about this...she probably already has a clue. Please do not abort your baby. If you are not able to support the baby then give it up for adoption. You should really be more careful with your activities because you could end up with a non-curable disease. Good luck!
2007-02-18 12:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋