Every time I give a public speech I get kudos from the audience (impromptu or not, the type of speech does not matter)! I have been asked to participate in public speaking contests! In fact I get kudos even days after the speech. Many consider me a good leader. I have lots of followers, and they seem to like working for me! However, socially I find my self not been able to communicate well with small crowds or one individual at a time. What is wrong?
2007-02-18 11:08:24 · 3 answers · asked by rico_flink 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This is normal.
Great salesmen make lousy sales managers.
Great PREACHERS often make bad PASTORS.
Your skills are as an orator, to the public.
You are gifted in your abilitiy to talk to an entire room full of people, and yet you go into malfunction mode when you are talking to only one or a few people.
The key is to realize when you are acting and when you should be yourself.
Or, a better way to put it might be, realize that you have at least TWO roles to play in life: The Public Speaker, The Social Networker.
Neither role will serve you well if you flip-flop and try to use the abilities that make you so charismatic before a crowd and so bourish in your small circle of friends in the opposite areas.
Great public speakers are often resented for NOT LISTENING in small groups. This may be your greatest challange: to stop and listen more and leave your words of wisdom on the stage.
G.E.T.
http://www.GordyThomas.com
2007-02-18 11:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by gordios_thomas_icxc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have different communication strengths.Your strength is public speaking. There really is no guide for speaking socially. The best way to get better at it is by doing it. Some things you can do to seem empathetic and thus more charming in interpersonal communication setting is to look the other person in the eyes while they are talking to you, but don't overdo to the point where the person thinks you are trying to stare them down. A good rule of thumb is to use eye contact 85% of the time. Another thing you can go is to use affirmations when someone is talking with you and to reprashe what they are saying back to them to show you are paying attention. In interpersonal communication the more you let the other person speak the more charming you seem. It seems you like to be the talker. That will always work against you in interpersonal communications. Also, try to speak slower and introduce pauses in your speech to let the other person digest your information and to give them a chance to give you feedback. Like all things in life practice, practice, practice.
2007-02-18 11:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Michael D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jesus become conversing on the subject of the Holy Spirit, no longer some person. John 14:sixteen and that i'll desire the father, and he will provide you yet another Helper, that He might abide with you consistently-- 17 the Spirit of certainty, whom the international can't receive, by using fact it neither sees Him nor is familiar with Him; yet you already know Him, for He dwells with you and could be in you.
2016-09-29 07:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋