First off all i want to thank anyone who answers this. I am 23yo and i desperetly want a child. My partner doesnt want until he gets married. He says that in couple of years we will get married and have a baby, but i am getting impatient and i want a baby soon, very soon. If my mum wasnt a strict and didnt believe in first marriage then children, i would think about being a single mum ... I just want baby so much that i cant wait any more. Please help!!!!!!
2007-02-18 10:56:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You have plenty of time to have children, and you will be doing your children a huge disservice if you have them without a solid marriage intact and try to be a single mother. It's in the best interest of the children to have two committed, supportive parents. Think of the child rather than what you feel you want at the moment.
2007-02-18 11:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun,
Be patient. Do not rush someone else into making a baby. This would cause guilt to stay on your mind for the rest of your life. Maybe the man you are with is not the right one, and maybe he is, but you are obviously in two different stages of this relationship.
You shouldnt just want to be a mom, you should rather want a family. Being a single mom is not something you should consider as you will be missing out on the little things that make a pregnancy and a baby more enjoyable and memorable.
Please think things through before you bring a child into this world without the luxury of a two parent home.
Good luck hun with whatever life swings your way! Hope this helps!
2007-02-18 16:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by ttcdayandnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so selfish. Your child deserves 2 parents who WANT him/her! You have no business having a baby with a man who is not even ready enough to marry you! You think marriage is a big commitment? A baby is triple the commitment and then some! Stop being so selfish and go babysit for your neighbor or something. Ever thought that maybe with such impatience on this issue (that you don't even want to wait until you are married)that you may not be mature enough for a child! YOUR MOTHER IS RIGHT...1 Marriage, 2 Baby
2007-02-18 11:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by Nurse Jacqui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think having a baby and being single is a good idea. All children need a mother and a father. I have a friend who feels tha same way you do, only difference is she's 15 and her b/f jus doesn't want a baby, only thing I could tell the both of you is jus be patient. Having children isn't something that should be rshed or unplanned.
2007-02-18 11:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by January Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dead wrong. Listen to your partner. First you get married, then you save until you can afford a child. They need a roof over their heads, medical care, and some savings for their future. You are thinking like a 14 year old, not a mature woman. You have no idea of what involved in raising a child. Get a puppy instead.
2007-02-18 11:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See if there's somewhere local that you can assist in baby care. Maybe a daycare or an orphanage? You might be wanting the baby because you really want the 'family' feeling & that might just tide you over until you can have your own. You are good to wait until your partner is ready. It's very hard without their support.
2007-02-18 11:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by pritigrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definatly wait. If you want a baby that bad then you should donate some of that love and support to a children's program. Find a way to mentor a child. maybe you like working with younger children. Then try volunteering at a preschool or child care center.
2007-02-18 11:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by imtika2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly having and raising children isnt AT ALL about what you want and you need. Its all about the child.
Children need parents, they need the best you can provide them, they need a loving house hold, and they need fathers.
Wait until you can get married and your partner is ready to have children. If he's just dragging his feet, find someone you can be with who wants what you want in life. To start a family.
Otherwise, just quiet that raging biological clock and do whats best for the children you WILL have some day.
2007-02-18 11:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is true that being a mom is rewarding, but you have to ask yourself this question, "Why is it that I want a baby so bad?" I am 20yo with a daughter and a son and I am married. My daughter came before we got married and I am glad I got married before my son was born. Not to knock unmarried moms, cause I was an unmarried mom when I had my daughter, so I know how it is. My husband is the father of my daughter and my son. You dont want to be one of thoes chicks with 7 or 8 baby daddies. You want your baby to grow up in a stable healthy enviornment. So truely think about it, why is it you really want a baby? Because you want someone to love you? Because everyone has one and you want it to? Thoes aren't really good reasons to want a baby. Email me at Shermia.trueheart@yahoo.com or IM me on here, my sn is shermia.trueheart
2007-02-18 11:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anayden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer to be a big sister or work with kids in some program. Wait until you can afford children. It is so much better than having a child and not being able to afford the necessities.
2007-02-18 11:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋