My boyfriend is in the Marines, and just left for Iraq- How do I stop crying??

Question

I don't know what to do to occupy my time. Everything reminds me of him, I'm going to go from talking to him ALL of the time, to maybe once a week, for a few minutes. I can't concentrate on school or work, I don't want to go out wth my friends....I'm so worried that something might happen to him. He will most likely be back in 7 months, but it could be a year.... Anyone else in this situation?? What do you do to stop the pain?? :(

Is there a chance that it won't be as bad as I'm thinking it will be? He just left today...

Answer 1

The best thing you could do is concentrate on school and work. It's not so bad, just try to focus in on things to keep yourself busy. It's okay to cry, my husband has been deployed since Dec. 8th, it's our 4th deployment and we have a 4 year old.
He won't be back until mid-June. At least you have things to occupy your time. Don't focus on what could happen, instead put that energy in work and studying, and when you talk with him on the phone give him your undivided attention without crying. The last thing he needs to be worried about is things going on in the states. My sister is also in the Marines and deployed to Iraq.

Everything takes time, give yourself some time. Once you get a routine started it want be so bad.

Answer 2

I am so sorry. You can start a diary or a song collection for a MP3 player. Give those items to him when he comes back.

But I was chatting with another guy who is in Iraq and he was on Yahoo chat. So those guys do have access to the Internet once in a while. Some more than others.

I hope you find something to occupy your time with. Perhaps writing your feelings down or write a short stories book about how you two met etc... will help.

Answer 3

Hey babe, I am sorry to hear :(. my baby( boyfriend) is also a marine and may be going to that hell hole ( Iraq) I don't know exactly how you are feeling because I have not went through it yet ( hopefully never). But I know that crying is perfectly natural and its ok to feel down. Keep him in your prayers ( him and his unit) and have faith that everything will be ok. think positive but there are possiblities that may overcome. I would definetly think about my boyfriend all the time if he was over there...wondering if he is safe and ok. Wait for his call and the days will pass...remember that he is in a worst situation ( missing you and his family) he is in danger 24/7 and wishes he was home. you have stay strong for your self and him. I hope this helps you and i also hope that the time passes by so fast so he can come home..( Everyone over there needs to come home) Stay strong babe, and wipe your tears away. Just know that he wants to be home too. God Bless.

Answer 4

The feeling of missing a loved one can be terribly painful. Try not to focus on the negatives of missing your boyfriend, but think of the exciting idea that he's serving our country. Worrying everyday for 7 months won't help any situation, so you're going to have to take your mind off of him sometime. Taking your mind off him doesn't mean forgetting him at all, but taking up a hobby might help.

Don't forget the greatness of your boyfriend's courage, but be supportive of his work. Your life can't be put on hold when you're loved one is gone.

Answer 5

It will get better. You will cry a lot the first 2 weeks. You will still cry for weeks and weeks and months and months when something reminds you of him, but over time you will learn how to get along without him there every day, and it will get easier. Sorry, hope the 7 months goes very fast.

Answer 6

Oh sweetie, you gotta cheer up, he is gonna be back and your love will be stronger than it is now.

Sometimes I envy the American life although i´d never try to immigrate there, but it´s in this cases when I´m happy to live in a third world country that has not an army as yours and has no intrest in sending it to another country, anyway...

Try to do something that distracts you. If he just left it´s normal that u are very sad, but in a few days u will be feeling better. Time flies and he will be back soon.

Answer 7

My husband just got back from a year-long deployment to Iraq a few months ago. The time goes by and you will see him again. When my husband left, we had a 3 month old daughter and it must have killed him to leave us too.

Put together care packages to send to him with goodies, letters, and pictures. Talk to him as much as you can on your IM. They love to get boxes of goodies sent to them. I'm sure he'll appreciate the connection to home so much. Take care and good luck.

Answer 8

believe it or not it gets easier...occupy your time with things like putting together care packages for him. Pick up a hobby somewhere like volunteering at your local VA to help out Veterans. Whatever you do, do not let him know how upset you are. when he calls you, don't cry. It's ok to let him know how much you miss him and love him..but he has enough to worry besides worrying about you being a wreck back home. Keep all conversations positive.

Answer 9

Is this the way b/f wants you to behave. You are going to have to believe that he will be back in the same physical condition. Think about, there are a whole lot who don't get injured and a lot more who come back alive. He can be sure that he may have a different outlook and will need you to be strong for him, then and now.

Answer 10

Stop watching Titanic!!! Invite friends over and watch comedies. And have a slumber party with some Bon Bons etc. Dont forget to insert that Ricky Martin cd while u r still at it.