I dont want to be gay can some one help me?

Question

I really need help I dont want to be gay I have pray to god to help me, to give me a new heart, but it seems i am the same please dont tell me to accept myself how i am because i wont i have suffer alot can some one, that wants to help me pray for me( so i can be straight and love girls like i mens suppose to do,)so that we can be more and god can hear us i dont know what to do i have not made it out with a girl maybe that is why i havent feel the pleasure how it feelsi am 17 and havent done it with a girl you think that is why. guys please help me or girls

Answer 1

Yes, I will keep you in prayer always, Jose, there is a lot of stuff you should know, I don't know how your question came across to me, but it did. I must tell you, you are awfully young to have such confusion and misery, there is a lot to say, you mention God a lot and I have the feeling you know much about his infinite love, the love he has for his children, you are one of them, he created you for a specific reason and purpose.

My perspective is, you don't have to think so much about being in some type of relationship with someone, it is extremely crucial you define, find and encounter the identity God has for you and be the person that God meant for you to be.
It takes a lot of honesty, and courage, which from what I see you have.. I'll be more than happy to help you, or else put you on the right path, guide you to it, and I pray that God brings clarity and freedom to your mind & spirit as well as the truth, because when we seek & follow the truth it shall set you free. Free from condemnation, guilt, shame, hating yourself, confusion, anger, bitterness, torment, etc. God has done it all for us, He came to give us life and life more abundantly. So I will pray for you, and I must tell you that you will need assistance(psychologically & counseling) you can't sort this out alone, I don't know if you've spoken to someone about this, someone you trust, you must do so if you haven't. I strongly recomend you do.
You are not alone, if there is anything I can do to help, let me know, I happen to know of some great resources which will allow you to work out this sort of issues and bring you to the right place. I'm part of a ministry team that provides intensive help on issues of such nature, working on spritual freedom through restoration and healing, deliverance, (dealing with pain issues from the past.) through therapy and dealing with rooted pain and trauma. There are different centers throughout the US, depending on where you are, I can provide some names. Please get in contact with me, or I will, please don't feel helpless, you've done something brave. and I command you for that. In Christ's love. A friend.

Answer 2

For starters, you can't just wish to be anything but you are, because what you are feeling is natural in a lot of people, and there is nothing wrong with it at all. The aspect of wanting God to change you so that you think you will fit in better with everyone is not something you should pay much attention to, although since it appears you are a religious person, as long as you do right in your life and believe always in god, then the bible says that he would accept you no matter what your sexual preferences are.
Even though it does say that being gay is not really a good thing in so many words, you should remember that the boble is full of contradictions and not everything you read in there can you ever possibly follow, it's impossible to do one thing with your whole heart then the opposite, that is contradicting the condtradictions and so on.

If you try and force yourself into being someone you aren't, in your case, straight, for loose of the proper term, then it will have negative side effects on your life in the future, and you could end up in worse shape than you are now with what you think.

Though you don't want people to say this, but you can't just change from who you are, and no amount of praying will ever let god change you to what you want to be, you have to make the best of what you have and don't worry about what others think, or you can be assured that you will not live a good life emotionally.

I wish you all the best though, and do hope you can get through any concerns you think are beating on you, though I don't see the harm in being gay at all, I'm rather jealous I am straight half the time, truth to tell.

Answer 3

You really are not clear about why you think you are gay. Just because you have not been with a woman does not make you gay. If you think you are attracted to males, there could be a reason you have forgotten, a reason like you as a child was influenced somehow by the same gender to draw your attraction, Often done innoscently.

Perhaps you expermented as a child and then thought it was something you liked. Perhaps you just have gender nonconformity, and that is a seperate issue than homosexuality. Science are trying to say gender nonconformity is a predisposition to homosexuality, but i strongly disagree. there are many people that had gender nonconformity and did not become homosexual. True some children may have hormonal imbalances to cause a predisposition to gender nonconformity, but some children learn characteristics that seem to belong to opposite gender and causes them to have some gender nonconformity. Often though children that have any gender nonconformity do ask themselves or convince themselves they may be gay.

Homosexuality is constructed. You had to have some predisposition in order to construct this, You was not born gay, but you may not remember what the predisposition was either.
If you could remember it could help you understand more, then also help you make changes.

Answer 4

"particular rights" or "gay rights" handy words coined via the media and via conservatives to make it sound like we would like preferential therapy; like GLBT human beings think of they're extra desirable than all and assorted else. properly, i do no longer choose for "particular rights", and that i do no longer choose for to be "rewarded" with privileges basically simply by fact my considerable different and that i've got been jointly twelve years - longer than maximum right away marriages will ever final. What we would like are the easy rights that married hetero couples can take with no attention any previous time, despite if we don't get married or do in no way undertake little ones. this is nevertheless an relatively unusual international we live in. If one individuals have been woman, we would have extra rights in our state staggering now as a right away single interracial couple than we do as a gay one.

Answer 5

Take it easy. You're still 17. Hormones are raging. Simply because you haven't boinked any girl doesn't mean your gay.

True gay people usually know who they are when they are younger. A lot of young people have trouble with gender issues but confuse it with success in bed.

A lot of young gays bed females. In fact I knew a gay guy in my hometown who was a lot better at it than I. A lot of young gays even go so far as to get married and have kids before reality slaps them in the face. I've yet to meet a gay person who didn't know by the time they got to the age of 14.

A lot of young gays tend to know who other gays are with a little practice. The term is gaydar.

I noted that you haven't boinked another male either. As stated by you. Your issue is rejection by females. Not rejection by males. Gays hate rejection too like anyone else. In every sense they are normal people too they just happen to find people of the same sex a turn on. You only mention girls.

Usually that is the pattern. Kids know. You're not asking the right question.

The question you should be asking is how can I attract a female? What can I do, with honesty and sincerity to find a friend/mate of the opposite sex, or if you are gay another guy. And don't quit on yourself.

Accept that for some people, the majority of people there is a lot of rejection until they meet the "one." The first love is not the best one. A girlfriend of mine once said it is always "the last one."

You'll be okay. Its a rejection issue you are trying to deal with. Get used to it. Rejections always outnumber acceptance. Once you get the first one. Its Christmas and the Super Bowl all rolled up together.

Well maybe not the Super Bowl. But at the time it does. Experience tells you different later.

And for the majority of people getting the first one is a lot harder than they care to admit. You'll be okay. Keep trying. Then. You'll know who you are.

Answer 6

Return question: Why are so many catholic priests gay?

Because deeply religious catholic gays are attracted to a style of life where everybody expects them not to have sex with women and where they can be faithful on top of it.

Priesthood is the solution the Catholics found for gays.

In the muslim and in the jewish community gays are expected to abstain. It is not condemned that you feel attracted to a man, was is frowned upon is anal intercourse with another man.

Modern Gay Orthodox Jews have founded two societies called OrthoGays and OrthoDykes. In accordance with Jewish law, the gay guys refrain from anal intercourse.

But by far the most interesting way of dealing with Homosexuality has Iran. Iran is an Islamic republic, there an open gay live style can result in punishment by death. Under these circumstances many gays choose to have a sex change - they become women in order to be happy with a man.

All this info is to show that you are not alone. Through all times religious gays have struggled with the problem you are facing. I hope you find a way to be both religious as well as

- accept the way God made you.

Because she did. ;-)

Answer 7

The difference of gay and straight is sex reference. If you are a Christian, you will feel the guilt of messy sex. You can marry and have sex with only one person.

Besides sex, if you are a man, a girl is only person who can bring your life happiness with family and children. I am sure you might be attracted to there people (guys or girls) from the look of the outside. If you try to make friend with some girls, you can be very much attracted to them by their personality. With this good personality, you will feel in love and have sex with a girl very easily.

If you don't want to be gay, the only way is to live in the environment with girls only. Don't hang out with boys. Try to be a gentlemen to girls. Give girls flowers, chocolate, have some attractive talk with girls. If you can do this, you will not become gay.

Answer 8

I'm praying for/with you! Wait on God and He will answer. Sometimes we want things to happen now but we gotta be patient and wait.
There's not something necessarily wrong with you nor the girl. It's not the right time, that's all!
You're so young!

Answer 9

I am sorry you cannot accept yourself for who you are.

However, your question isn't really clear. Having not made out with a girl doesn't automatically make you gay, but being attracted to other men and not attracted to women would. You can't change your sexual orientation, but if you're that afraid of accepting yourself then I suppose the only thing you can do is try and suppress it by pretending to be straight or remaining abstinent.

I am sorry for you though, it is hard to be happy if you can't accept yourself.

Answer 10

I think you haven't made out with a guy thats all
then you will realize that making out with a guy is way hotter than with a girl. You are not ready to come out as bi or gay don't push it. and don't let your family and religions viewpoints make you see through jaded glass. Be who you are naturally
move to a place where it is accepted to be who you are.
Get closer to men or women if you prefer but never lose sight of yourself. don't leave yourself to being so open to have your sexuality attacked. There is nothing wrong with a double income and no kids. There is nothing wrong with fine espresso, wine, sushi, fancy clothes and shoes. and great hair. there is nothing wrong with a healthy gay sexuality. There is nothing wrong with how you choose to have sex. there is nothing wrong with being who you truely want to be...you may just be BI You never know...or you could be gay only you know and it is your choice of when you want to "come out" I think you may be just a quick learner or an old soul that is waking up to the illusion all around us.