My boyfriend and i have been together for ages, we're getting married in june and we have a wee boy together, my fiance is great and is so fab and lovely etc etc BUT.... he is a DJ and every time i'm out i see girls flirting with him and I get so mad!!! I don't think he flirts back but must enjoy it... who wouldn't??? How do i stop being so jealous? Thanks!!!
2007-02-18 10:21:26 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks for all the answers.. i do trust him 100%...just get a bit annoyed, i'll try and take a chill pill...he'll be pleased to hear this lol x x
2007-02-18 10:32:41 · update #1
I don't know why some girls think they can flirt with other girls blokes, esp when they are engaged! It's rude and shows a lack of manners, morals and common decency.
Your bloke sounds fab and I reckon that this might always be something that follows him, but so long as you can trust him, then you are the lucky one girl!!!
Remember he's with YOU, not them!!
Congrats on your upcoming wedding!!
2007-02-18 11:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Enya♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just understand that it's part of his job, and most of the times, if there is music, there will be drinking, and so, those girls who were flirting with him, might just be drunk or high.
Don't take it personally. Don't even approach them girls because it would be bad for his business. Even if he enjoys it, it's irrevelant, because he's still with you and go home to you and not those other girls.
But if you think in the long run, this will cause major problem in your marriage to him, then either he must switch career or you need to find another man.
The bottom line is that is a job and girls flirting goes with the territory. Imagine if he was a professional sport player. You would have more problems then. When he's working and you are there, go up and hug and kiss him, and talk to him. Let them girls know that you two are together but don't you go confronting them in a fighting manner.
He's yours so stand up for what is yours.
2007-02-18 10:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lana817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 23, and in the experience that your are in severe college we do flirt plenty in yet in a different way between a while yet... In severe college no count number what activity I performed, on each occasion I observed a guy I enjoyed i could no longer help yet smile. I used to p.c.. fights, like stupid little arguments, with the guy I enjoyed however the entire time we'd be arguing i'd flash little smiles in between. additionally everyone who touches you plenty mutually as they're talking, won't be able to truly seem to look you interior the eyes yet is obviously enjoying the verbal substitute, or many times has a worried snicker mutually as they consult with you're flirting. desire this enables!!
2016-10-15 23:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to put your trust in him....take it as a compliment that other women find your fiance charming and handsome. ... feel proud that he is coming home to you. So long as he is not cheating on you....you can look at like I have what all these other girls want! TRUST is the most valuable gift you can give your man.....if you can't trust eventually your relationship is going to crumble around your feet with or without other girls flirting.
2007-02-18 10:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some jobs involve men getting this sort of attention.
As long as he's loyal and faithful to you that's what matters!
Some guys are not so trustworthy. You're lucky!
Just try and tell yourself "It's just a job, it pays the bills etc".
At least he doesn't give you any reason to feel insecure so it's just a wee bit of jealousy and it's perfectly normal reaction.
2007-02-18 10:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just realise he's with you for a reason, because he loves you! If he wanted those other girls, he would be with them.
Of course it would be hard to see, but take it as a compliment that so many women want him.... but he's yours.
You obviously trust him... because you haven't said anything about you're worried he'll cheat etc, you've just said your jealous.....so i'd say just take it as a compliment that he's yours and no one elses and take it as something that proves your relationship is stronger.... he could have these other women... but he doesn't want them!
Hope your wedding goes well!
2007-02-18 10:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i myself are very jealous of anybody talking to my now husband we have been together for 11 years we have two little boys and we got married last September. and i still feel jealous if he goes over the local and the girl behind the bar starts to flirt with him i go mad i want to kill the world . But i stop and think we are together not him with anybody else there is know ball and chain keeping us together we are where we want to be and that's how you have got to think its you he is with its you he wants marry not them girls in the club. stop worrying its you he wants. good luck for the future.
2007-02-18 10:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by lou. c. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats exactly like my current situation. i have a "good friend" of mine who does the exact thing..goes up and flirts with him, even right in front of me! i feel jealous too. well he IS a dj, and girls who are out partying usually get drunk, and they might not have an idea that hes engaged. just wait and see what happens, and only take action if he starts flirting back with them.
2007-02-18 10:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by kb293 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He gave you a child and he's giving you his freedom (marriage ugh!) in june, his job is to please people and to help them have a fun night. Girls flirt with djs cos thats the kinda thing we do, they probably see it as harmless and no doubt your bloke does too. Its his job - you should be proud of the fact that you bloke is dishy and that girls like him, after all - its YOU he chose and its YOU he wants so stop the jealousy and start being proud!!
2007-02-18 10:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just trust him & be careful because if you carry on & act like you don't trust him you will lose him!!!!
He loves you & is engaged to you so just TRUST him!!
the girls will flirt but if you stay sweet & loving & caring & proud of him etc & (wait for it )TRUST HIM you will keep him
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No, they say if you are jealous you don't trust & you want to control things so RELAX & enjoy your loving Man
2007-02-18 10:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋