I have a friend that is always saying suicidal things until he gets a girlfriend??

Question

there is a friend i have and he is always very suicidal then he gets a girlfriend and is always saying he has a reason to live then she leaves and its the same routine till he gets another girlfriend what should i do??ive tried to talk to him but it doesnt seem to work

Answer 1

Aren't you sick of his Bull Sh**? Tell him so! Tell him you didn't get a degree in 'suicide prevention' and as his friend you want him to go get some professional help. You say you have tried to talk to him to no avail. Have you talked to his parents? That would make you a really good friend to reach out for help for him when he isn't or can't do it! If he really does decide to be selfish and do himself in, remember you tried to help. You will not be responsible for any decision he makes. PLEASE tell his parents, his guidance counselor (if he's still in school) his sister, brother, Aunt, Uncle, etc., people that care even more than you do. This should NOT be on your shoulders. Please do it soon for your own piece of mind.

Answer 2

Your friend sounds like he doesn't have any self value and he thinks that having a girlfriend helps think more of his self than he does when he doesn't have one. He really needs to do some soul searching into his self because he is missing something on the inside, try getting him to take the focus off of his self and put it on something or someone else, like charity work, or visiting nursing homes and being a big brother to some less fortunate young person. He needs to reach out and help someone other than himself. And he will see there is more to life than his life.

Answer 3

Stop being caught up in this power struggle and his demanding pleas for sympathy. If you truly want to help him, tell him that you respect his decision and will help him make plans.. Get him to focus on reality, and have him make a will, write a letter to his parents, decide which of his friends get which of his possessions, sign over his car and bank accounts if he has any.
Figure out who will make burial plans and other arrangements, etc. When he can't get everybody all stirred up, and feeling sorry for him, he will stop talking like this. He needs to stop working people and scaring them with this power play, so stop feeding it. If he was going to commit suicide, he would have done so long ago, so stop being fooled. Best wishes

Answer 4

This person probably has abandonment issues, a lot of people do. And a lot of people talk about suicide. If your friend wont talk to you about his problems you may want to seek help from an outside source. Your friend will be pissed at you...but better that than him commiting suicide.
It is also may be that your friend is just really cynical....a glass half empty kind of guy. Try to talk to him again...if you still think he would really kill himself...talk to someone else.

Answer 5

I am suicidal every day also..Still i dont have a problem with that either.Maybe this is the way he attracts women. Besides death & sex sound cool together...:) or maybe he is "dying" while cumming...thats why he talks like this..:P oh well, what do i know, im not a shrink so the piece of advice is : go see a dentist.. hahaha

Answer 6

Maybe he is frightend of being alone and needs someone to love him and that he can rely on. Dont we all want someone to love us. All you can do next time it happens is be there for him as a shoulder to cry on and listen to him offer him tea / coffee and chocolates / biscuits tell him your always there for him 24 / 7 any time that he wants to call no matter what. Tell him some jokes - try to cheer him up. you dont want mine their rubbish he. Im sorry I cant be more helpful but I do hope this advice is helpful.

Answer 7

He is so immature and insecure. People like this rarely commit suicide. Next time he is saying he is going to just look at him and say. Ahhhhh, get a girlfriend instead.

Answer 8

Anyone that needs to be in a relationship to think there's a reason to live has something wrong with them. He needs counciling & you should request it from him. If he says no or says he doesn't need it, tell him anyone that even thinks about suicide has problems.

Answer 9

He seems very insecure and is apparently deathly afraid of abandonment..which can't result in anything good once he breaks up with these girlfriends he's had in the past. He needs therapy.

Answer 10

I think that you as his friend should try and help him find other reasons to live than just girlfriends. If that doesnt help than you should tell a councilor before he hurts himself.